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At my age, you've been married you've raised your kids, and had enough of taking care of everyone else but yourself. And believe me, don't misunderstand, loved being married, and most of all, raising my son...he was awesome and so were his friends. However, now it's my turn, and I wouldn't trade it for the world....
I guess I'm leapfrogging over the "married with children" part, and going straight to the "my turn" part. If that makes me selfish or a Peter Pan, meh. (What's the emoticon for apathy?)
I guess I'm leapfrogging over the "married with children" part, and going straight to the "my turn" part. If that makes me selfish or a Peter Pan, meh. (What's the emoticon for apathy?)
no one said that makes you selfish....that's what you want. Listen, life is way too short to label people or yourself, or listen to others who have negative comments towards you. Gravitate towards the positive...always, and leave the rest behind.
This is your life....as long as you don't hurt anyone else in the process, enjoy!
I guess I'm leapfrogging over the "married with children" part, and going straight to the "my turn" part. If that makes me selfish or a Peter Pan, meh. (What's the emoticon for apathy?)
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I guess I'm leapfrogging over the "married with children" part, and going straight to the "my turn" part. If that makes me selfish or a Peter Pan, meh. (What's the emoticon for apathy?)
Without an agreed-upon definition of happiness, this thread is pointless. And that is nearly impossible, because just as several posters have outlined, some people are happy alone, some people are miserable alone. Some people are happy in a relationship, others are miserable in a relationship.
In my case, and that is all I can speak for, I am happy alone and I can be happy in a relationship too. My happiness is my own, I am the only one responsible for my state of happiness. An unhappy person cannot be 'fixed' into a happy person by putting them in a relationship. I've seen many people try this and fail, and then they blame the other person in the relationship for the failure to make them happy.
Happy is a choice you make - perhaps the people who believe they can only be happy when they are with someone else are actually experiencing boredom, discontent, loneliness or some other state of mind when they are without an 'SO'.
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Not you two. And thanks for the words of encouragement. But society at large seems to think that all single men over 30 are selfish.
if you'd listen to society, you'd be someone else all together....people are constantly trying to tell you not only what to do, how to live but who you are....
don't buy into it, and let me tell you, there are a whole lot of people out there who probably don't date, b/c they feel like you do....go find them and while your doing so, enjoy life, travel, invent things to do, to make you happy, it gives you something to look forward to....I mean it....stop allowing people to dictate to you who you are....
and one more thing, if and when you book a trip, and you share it with co-workers, beware of the nay sayers who are negative about what you are doing....they are either afraid to go it alone, or, jealous...and never venture out there own front door but would like to.
You'll find very few people will be happy for you....and encourage you to get out there and be the best that you can be.
Last edited by cremebrulee; 02-22-2017 at 11:22 AM..
Laugh it off my friend - society at large can get bent.
ta dah....standing ovation!!!!
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