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don't buy into it, and let me tell you, there are a whole lot of people out there who probably don't date, b/c they feel like you do....go find them and while your doing so, enjoy life, travel, invent things to do, to make you happy, it gives you something to look forward to....I mean it....stop allowing people to dictate to you who you are....
I actually already found like-minded people to an extent: through Meetup. One group is especially like that. The group is strictly social and friendly, and using to seek out dates is strongly discouraged by the organizer and by self-policing. Everybody in it likes going out and having fun, despite most people being over 30. Quite a bit of drinking takes place too, along with the goofy behaviors associated with it. It seems like the group provides a social outlet for people who think like me. Outright craziness that's common among 21-year-olds is very rare, though.
There is a handful of dating couples in the group, but they're amazingly discreet about it. Occasionally, I see a more-than-friendly hug or a quick peck on the lips, but that's as couple-y as it gets. I don't feel like there is a social divide of any kind, that you often see in mixed groups of couples and singles, like among my long-time friends, whose mindset is far more mainstream.
As always, there's nothing wrong with opting out of marriage/relationships and parenting children.
I'd argue that opting out of relationships because you truly believe women are just screaming nags who set out to ruin men emotionally and financially (based on your mother?), well that might be something you might want to explore. Like, in therapy.
Not you two. And thanks for the words of encouragement. But society at large seems to think that all single men over 30 are selfish.
Society-at-large ~=
- $4600 in savings
- Years worth of debt
- "Entertained" by Tee-vee, crap streaming in iCrud, cute texts back and forth, gossip about both people they know and people they don't
- Got meds?
- Pick your poison ... I mean ... suburb
Lots of men are happy as single men. Some men are also happy being single since being abused and financially raped in a divorce. Relationships are painted in this society, as the source of true happiness, but millions know that is a myth.
Relationships are painted in this society, as the source of true happiness, but millions know that is a myth.
My determination to remain single has got me labelled as a misogynist among other things. Not true. I love women and enjoy their company as friends. What I hate is the presentation of romantic relationships in our culture and the way they're perceived as the key to happiness and fulfilment if one's life is somehow lacking. That's misleading and unrealistic. Even the most harmonious of couplings is not without difficulties or complexities.
My determination to remain single has got me labelled as a misogynist among other things. Not true. I love women and enjoy their company as friends. What I hate is the presentation of romantic relationships in our culture and the way they're perceived as the key to happiness and fulfilment if one's life is somehow lacking. That's misleading and unrealistic. Even the most harmonious of couplings is not without difficulties or complexities.
I don't get that logic. How does a man staying single mean he hates women? Can someone answer that for me?
I don't get that logic. How does a man staying single mean he hates women? Can someone answer that for me?
My accuser has no logic, merely a dimestore psychology degree and an overestimated view of his manhood's girth. This qualifies him as an authority on everything apparently.
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