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There is also a vested interest for those that influence hearts and minds to push the marriage agenda so I'd take that ''new study'' with a pinch of salt.
I couldn't agree more. It serves government interests to marry off its minions (oops, I mean citizens) to each other. Married people spend more money, and therefore pay more taxes: property, sales and income.
I married at 44. I enjoyed being single but I love being narried...nice to have a companion ....a steady partner to share life with. I had wished that I had married earlier. No kids at this late in life but the feeling of "security" really is a nice benefit of marriage. Dating ..frankly...is tiresome after one gets to a certain age. By my late 30's I no longer cared about dating. Yes, it was a sweet surprise to see my life take a turn for the better.
At the risk of playing devil's advocate, the guy was onto something about counseling. Most marriage counselors---make that all of them---automatically take the wife's side. They probably do it out of misguided sympathy.
Marriage counselors actually side with whoever is paying the bill for the counseling service.
Studies agree with you. It is especially difficult for those in middle age to live their life alone. We are social beings, this is contrary to our basic needs.
1) Studies can't replace what each person deeply desires. Some people truly thrive and are happy being single. Plus, I'd take that study with a grain of salt (plenty like to push people into marrying).
2) Not being married doesn't equal a lack of a social life.
I couldn't agree more. It serves government interests to marry off its minions (oops, I mean citizens) to each other. Married people spend more money, and therefore pay more taxes: property, sales and income.
Plus, dot.gov knows that even if they try not making bambinos, at least some couples will (or one of the couple will) have "accidents."
More accidents means more tax payers in the future.
That does not change the fact that happiness can only come from within us, no one else. No one else can make you happy,they can only distract you from what is making you sad.
I am sorry you feel this way. A loved one is not merely "a distraction"
I am sorry you feel this way. A loved one is not merely "a distraction"
If you look to that loved one to fill a void that is missing in your life to make you happy, then that's exactly what they are, a distraction (because no one else can do that but you). I didn't say that's all they were, you added that to your comment when you said 'merely'
I know a guy that only got married because he was feeling lonely. Even though he has kids with his wife, I assume she is good to him, they go on holidays together and have fun, there is no denying that she is still a distraction for why he felt lonely, why he felt that void. It's still there....
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