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I don't have an issue with a man cave. My only thing is, envision where you'll spend quality time with a woman, and is it comfortable for that? Aside from co-op gaming. Like, you want to snuggle and watch a movie. You won't be doing that in your office chairs in the game room. Is the living room comfortable? Is your bedroom an inviting place? Is your kitchen clean? How about the bathroom? In areas like that, think textures and rich colors. Soft towels in the bathroom, soft blanket on the couch, soft blanket on your bed, things she will want to touch. And possibly be naked on.
If other areas seem uncomfortable, she won't want to spend time at your place. And if the only room you seem to put any energy into, to the point of neglecting the rest of the house, is the man cave, it sends the message, "This man will be staring at screens the whole time we're together, if not up front, then later when he takes me for granted, and I won't get much of his attention." I have reached the point where if I'm on a date or spending quality time with my man, I put my cell phone AWAY and I don't take it out. He has my attention. Not screens.
You wonder why women would want to be in a relationship if they like to be out in the world doing social things, or have other interests and hobbies they don't share with their man...if they don't have TIME to invest in a relationship, because life is full, why do it? Well, when women see elaborate computer setups, many of us would assume you won't, in the long run, just like the "bait and switch" conversation, have TIME or attention, to put into a relationship. His relationship with his computer will always take precedent. Maybe you are not like that. Many men are.
Even if you have co-op gaming set up, the image of computer activities, is a solitary one. A person staring at a screen cannot be looking into the eyes of a partner. Hands on keyboard and mouse are not hands holding hands or touching bodies. Everybody has a computer nowadays, but it's different when your whole rig and the room its in screams, "this right here is my BABY!"
Though personally, it would put me off more if he had swimsuit models or porn posters on the walls. But that's just me. *shrug*
Man caves are great as long as they have doors which can be closed to hide the untidiness and so long as they don’t become biohazards. It’s good to have it contained. I have four brothers and two sons. I’ve had “several” boyfriends and one husband—not simultaneously—and I heartily endorse the concept of man caves.
I don't have an issue with a man cave. My only thing is, envision where you'll spend quality time with a woman, and is it comfortable for that? Aside from co-op gaming. Like, you want to snuggle and watch a movie. You won't be doing that in your office chairs in the game room. Is the living room comfortable? Is your bedroom an inviting place? Is your kitchen clean? How about the bathroom? In areas like that, think textures and rich colors. Soft towels in the bathroom, soft blanket on the couch, soft blanket on your bed, things she will want to touch. And possibly be naked on.
Yep black satin sheets, nice thick comforter, leather loveseat(no couch) other parts of the house may be sparse decoration wise but it is comfortable and functional. red lighting in the bedroom bluish lighting in the living room.
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If other areas seem uncomfortable, she won't want to spend time at your place. And if the only room you seem to put any energy into, to the point of neglecting the rest of the house, is the man cave, it sends the message, "This man will be staring at screens the whole time we're together, if not up front, then later when he takes me for granted, and I won't get much of his attention." I have reached the point where if I'm on a date or spending quality time with my man, I put my cell phone AWAY and I don't take it out. He has my attention. Not screens.
And I agree and I'm the same way.
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You wonder why women would want to be in a relationship if they like to be out in the world doing social things, or have other interests and hobbies they don't share with their man...if they don't have TIME to invest in a relationship, because life is full, why do it? Well, when women see elaborate computer setups, many of us would assume you won't, in the long run, just like the "bait and switch" conversation, have TIME or attention, to put into a relationship. His relationship with his computer will always take precedent. Maybe you are not like that. Many men are.
Again we agree, I never understood guys like that, as much as I enjoy gaming a woman can always get me to pause or X out of a game with a come hither stare lol.
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Even if you have co-op gaming set up, the image of computer activities, is a solitary one. A person staring at a screen cannot be looking into the eyes of a partner. Hands on keyboard and mouse are not hands holding hands or touching bodies. Everybody has a computer nowadays, but it's different when your whole rig and the room its in screams, "this right here is my BABY!"
Like some guys talk about the hotrod they have been tweeking for 10 years in their garage? lol
But seriously you bring up a point I was going to make in another thread, your wrong about everyone owning a computer, in fact I've been noticing more women seem to not have computers, and even the ones that do hardly use them, like the last woman I had a convo with from POF we got to talking about interests and though she owned a computer she only uses it once in a blue moon and the only reason she owns one is because of a previous job 9 years ago. and that she mostly uses her tablet.
And that seems more common among females. there was a study done a few years back the showed 43% of gamers were female, but when you eliminated mobile games and facebook games it was less that 12%. that kinda saddened me.
Again we agree, I never understood guys like that, as much as I enjoy gaming a woman can always get me to pause or X out of a game with a come hither stare lol.
Yeah, but that's still saying, "I will be gaming unless she wants to have sex." What about anything else? Are you going to her parents for Thanksgiving? Are you her plus one at her friend's wedding? Are you going to throw a cookout in your yard and invite your friends? Travel? Restaurants? Or is your vision just sitting in the dark, never leaving the house and staring at screens until you get horny? And she's just supposed to be there waiting for that?
I have never played a video game before I wouldn't understand someone like this,I'd prefer someone who reads books,or is literary or a musician or something.
But there are likely many girls who would be fine with this.
That grass is not dead lol in fact I don't think it can be killed, every time it rains I end up having to cut it twice a week for a month. I keep it mowed and edged, with my new mower it takes 15 minutes tops. I do plan on painting the house, I've been buying paint a little at a time and when I get a compressor and paint attachment(not using a roller again), as far as the roof goes that is a new roof, had hail damage and had to take out a claim.
You need to look at a few home decorating websites because you’re really not comprehending what people are trying to say.
Well, if I were a woman just starting to date a guy and his "rec room" is nothing but a bunch of video game hardware, I'd wonder just how long ago he moved out of Mom's basement and stopped wearing sweatpants everywhere.
Personally my idea of a "man cave" (if I ever get to have one) involves lots of wood paneling, bookshelves everywhere filled with actual books that people read (not "by the yard"), big comfortable chairs and sofas with reading lamps everywhere, a bunch of musical instruments all round, maybe a few antique tools displayed on the wall along with a variety of artwork, well-worn Oriental (or imitations thereof) rugs strewn this way and that, and a good-looking liquor cabinet. No computer or TV screens permitted, no dumbphones either. To make it perfect you would add one or two big friendly dogs.
Ideally, you go downstairs from that room to the 2-car-garage size shop with concrete floor, 25 HP compressor, Bridgeport mill with CNC drive, engine lathe, MIG, TIG, and gas welding rigs, a big surface plate, an Ironworker, band saw (not one of those crummy tilting cutoff saws, a real band saw), H-frame hydraulic press, and a small sheet metal brake. And maybe a few other things I am not thinking of right now. That's where the computer screen is, with at least Solidworks, maybe MasterCam or whatever interfaces with the Bridgeport.
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