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If it's a recurring theme then you're likely being needy, clingy, or smothering....maybe you should find more things to take up your time that add value. Start working out, yoga, mountain bike, learn a new craft such as woodworking, cooking, etc.
I go cycling every other night to stay fit, still have more time for a relationship than most.
There's be no need for a "man cave." It would be our "cave" as we share the same leisure activities and interests. We brainstorm ideas for a media/entertainment room quite often. Projector, theater seats, gaming area, lounge sacs, sci-fi and fantasy Knicknacks, stereo system, a place for his guitars, etc.
We already have that vibe in the living room with LED light strips, mounted guitars, gaming units, and we have to remount our lightsabers above the TV.
Perhaps find someone with complimentary tastes, styles and interests.
There's be no need for a "man cave." It would be our "cave" as we share the same leisure activities and interests. We brainstorm ideas for a media/entertainment room quite often. Projector, theater seats, gaming area, lounge sacs, sci-fi and fantasy Knicknacks, stereo system, a place for his guitars, etc.
We already have that vibe in the living room with LED light strips, mounted guitars, gaming units, and we have to remount our lightsabers above the TV.
Perhaps find someone with complimentary tastes, styles and interests.
Some people do enjoy their "own" space in shared living quarters. And the op was, I think, referring to a bachelor pad with a designated room.
Perhaps find someone with complimentary tastes, styles and interests.
Honestly, I think the OP's bigger challenge is not to find someone who has similar interests and who doesn't mind him having a room of his own, it's finding someone who is okay with being his entire social life, and vice versa. It's one thing to be a bit of a homebody and to want your own space, but expecting a girlfriend to not have a life of her own outside of you (and feeling that you have no life without an SO) is going to be an issue.
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Honestly, I think the OP's bigger challenge is not to find someone who has similar interests, it's finding someone who is okay with being his entire social life, and vice versa. It's one thing to be a bit of a homebody and to want your own space, but expecting a girlfriend to not have a life of her own outside of you is going to be an issue.
I was confused by his spending time with each other comment. Like don't you have people to hang out with?
I am not at all against man caves. The way I see it, it is nice for a man to have a place for all of his ugly crap, so that the rest of the house can be decorated nicely
It's also great for people to have a space of their own. This includes women.
I was confused by his spending time with each other comment. Like don't you have people to hang out with?
Only if you count all of the ones he has created on screens.
I've been trying, every time I get into a cyphorx thread, to figure out what it is that is offputting. It's definitely something, but it's not merely this or only that. It's...kind of the whole deal. I can imagine forgiving a guy for having a house in a sketchy area, especially when I was younger and less established myself. I can forgive a man for having his own minimalist style. I am not completely put off by a guy liking video games or wanting a man cave or whatever. And I am pretty comfortable with introverts, though a man who demands that I become an introvert to suit his needs would never fly. But there's just something about the whole package, that says "this guy would seriously be a lot happier with a robot than a human woman." I think the memes with the SIM-people is what keeps reinforcing that. The impression that, here is a man, who is far more at home in a fantasy, than in the real world with real people. It disturbs me.
I can only hope maybe there's a woman out there who feels exactly the same and maybe they find each other. I don't know her. If anyone ever meets a woman (probably online) who seems like a good fit, you should really send her his way, because I just don't think there are many such individuals and they'll need all the help they can get to find one another.
I'll take the pledge. If I ever meet she-phorx, I will totally make sure to put the two of you in contact, man. I promise.
Only if you count all of the ones he has created on screens.
I've been trying, every time I get into a cyphorx thread, to figure out what it is that is offputting. It's definitely something, but it's not merely this or only that. It's...kind of the whole deal. I can imagine forgiving a guy for having a house in a sketchy area, especially when I was younger and less established myself. I can forgive a man for having his own minimalist style. I am not completely put off by a guy liking video games or wanting a man cave or whatever. And I am pretty comfortable with introverts, though a man who demands that I become an introvert to suit his needs would never fly. But there's just something about the whole package, that says "this guy would seriously be a lot happier with a robot than a human woman." I think the memes with the SIM-people is what keeps reinforcing that. The impression that, here is a man, who is far more at home in a fantasy, than in the real world with real people. It disturbs me.
I can only hope maybe there's a woman out there who feels exactly the same and maybe they find each other. I don't know her. If anyone ever meets a woman (probably online) who seems like a good fit, you should really send her his way, because I just don't think there are many such individuals and they'll need all the help they can get to find one another.
I'll take the pledge. If I ever meet she-phorx, I will totally make sure to put the two of you in contact, man. I promise.
The whole posting a video he made with every comment weirds me out a bit and I don't know why.
There's be no need for a "man cave." It would be our "cave" as we share the same leisure activities and interests. We brainstorm ideas for a media/entertainment room quite often. Projector, theater seats, gaming area, lounge sacs, sci-fi and fantasy Knicknacks, stereo system, a place for his guitars, etc.
We already have that vibe in the living room with LED light strips, mounted guitars, gaming units, and we have to remount our lightsabers above the TV.
Perhaps find someone with complimentary tastes, styles and interests.
*le sigh*
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