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People here a bit over the top in my opinion. Yes, it's pretty obvious she cheated on you. Yes, she's trying to hide this by deflecting blame onto you. Does this mean "The End"? It depends on both of you.
First of all, she needs to come clean with you but it seems that she's not ready to do so. Your best bet is to find solid proof. You will need to check her phone records, bank/credit card records (hotels?), is her having condoms a red flag, see if she tracks her runs using her phone/apps. Ask her for her phone so you can see if any calls are deleted. You should also ask to her email, but she might have a secret email account. Does she have her own computer?
So two things can happen when you ask for all of this:
1. She can be pissed off that you don't trust her but give you access, or
2. Throw a complete fit and refuses access
If it's #2 you know exactly what's going on, but having proof is tough.
See how she reacts, and then go to talk to a marriage counselor first.
Man...SOMEBODY would've gotten cussed out by now, if it was me.
There are SO many red flags.....
This woman obviously did something she CLEARLY feels guilty about, otherwise she wouldn't be flipping out as much as she is. I would threaten to tell the whole family, maybe then she'll come to her senses and come clean.
People here a bit over the top in my opinion. Yes, it's pretty obvious she cheated on you. Yes, she's trying to hide this by deflecting blame onto you. Does this mean "The End"? It depends on both of you.
First of all, she needs to come clean with you but it seems that she's not ready to do so. Your best bet is to find solid proof. You will need to check her phone records, bank/credit card records (hotels?), is her having condoms a red flag, see if she tracks her runs using her phone/apps. Ask her for her phone so you can see if any calls are deleted. You should also ask to her email, but she might have a secret email account. Does she have her own computer?
So two things can happen when you ask for all of this:
1. She can be pissed off that you don't trust her but give you access, or
2. Throw a complete fit and refuses access
If it's #2 you know exactly what's going on, but having proof is tough.
See how she reacts, and then go to talk to a marriage counselor first.
Or, rather than snoop, the next time she threatens divorce, he could say, "Marriage counseling. NOW! I'm making an appointment for us today."
I'll be passing out the popcorn and arranging chairs for y'all, to watch her reaction to that. Still, that's the way situations like this are usually handled. I mean, if one wants to be above board about it.
Man...SOMEBODY would've gotten cussed out by now, if it was me.
There are SO many red flags.....
This woman obviously did something she CLEARLY feels guilty about, otherwise she wouldn't be flipping out as much as she is. I would threaten to tell the whole family, maybe then she'll come to her senses and come clean.
Doesn't the whole family already know about it? Isn't that what she's saying she's flipping out about, and accusing the OP of trashing the marriage, or her family relationships, about?
The experts on saving marriages after infidelity agree that when cheating is suspected, snooping is absolutely OK, and the only way to find out the truth. Cheaters lie. All. The. Time.
Doesn't the whole family already know about it? Isn't that what she's saying she's flipping out about, and accusing the OP of trashing the marriage, or her family relationships, about?
Never mind. I can barely keep up, myself, lol.
No. Cheaty Wife is upset because she is afraid the family will see that OP appears to be avoiding BIL and will want to know why. Then the ugly truth will come out. Like it won't anyway.
No. Cheaty Wife is upset because she is afraid the family will see that OP appears to be avoiding BIL and will want to know why. Then the ugly truth will come out. Like it won't anyway.
Oh, I see. Thank you. So that's what all the fuss is about. Good grief! She's accusing him of blowing her cover.
it seemed a little odd that he was hiding this from his wife and attempting to make it their little secret. Anyways, this goes on for a little and at some point my wife's sister finds out about the weekday runs and gets upset at her husband. He doubles down and only tells her about a couple of the runs and asks my wife to cover for him. For some reason my wife covers and backs his story to her sister.
Do you really still not know the reason your wife covered him and backs his story to her own sister ?
Op, I'm just impressed you didn't punch his lights out.
Yeah that, is truly the bare minimum that scum bag deserves!
(Of course not worth be arrested over!)
The WIFE is the one he should be confronting for allowing the BIL's advances, and having an affair with him. Her reactions are solid proof. This will not end well.
It seems some women, and men for that matter, get comfortable in a situation, kids, house, cars, some money, and security, get bored, then do this crap. It shows basic insecurity, and lack of character.
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