I don't think I will ever marry again. (girlfriend, man, friend)
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No kidding. I would give a standing ovation if the OP was giving a speech.
Well....maybe I had her mixed up then with someone else.
I just thought I remember her wanting advice about her BF, and how he didn`t understand her, and he drank alot, etc....
This whole thing occurred to me when I was reading something about back in the day when it was not acceptable to live together, sometimes a wealthy couple would have apartments next to each other with a secret door so it appeared they lived apart but in fact they had close access to each other.
It just made me think this would be the best of both worlds. For example, I can't imagine sharing a checking account with someone or completely turning over the money to my partner. Some nights, I like having the whole bed to myself. Some nights I don't go to sleep until the morning for whatever reason, I don't have to explain that to anyone. Some nights my daughter sleeps with me. I eat in bed, terrible habit but there it is and I am not at my age going to STOP eating in bed. I just had Cape Cod potato chips and French Onion dip, this would annoy most people I should imagine.
I think I have been single for so that I am not fit to be cooped up with someone else. Making that kind of commitmet is a frightening thing.
I think part of it is that I did have a bad experience with my daughters FAther. He had an opinion about my hair, what color it was, how long it was, no decorating in the house that would seem feminine, even down to the furniture, I could have no opinion. I savour being surrounded by flowers, I LOVE my hair short and red and I love how no one has anything to say about it.
This whole thing occurred to me when I was reading something about back in the day when it was not acceptable to live together, sometimes a wealthy couple would have apartments next to each other with a secret door so it appeared they lived apart but in fact they had close access to each other.
It just made me think this would be the best of both worlds. For example, I can't imagine sharing a checking account with someone or completely turning over the money to my partner. Some nights, I like having the whole bed to myself. Some nights I don't go to sleep until the morning for whatever reason, I don't have to explain that to anyone. Some nights my daughter sleeps with me. I eat in bed, terrible habit but there it is and I am not at my age going to STOP eating in bed. I just had Cape Cod potato chips and French Onion dip, this would annoy most people I should imagine.
I think I have been single for so that I am not fit to be cooped up with someone else. Making that kind of commitmet is a frightening thing.
I think part of it is that I did have a bad experience with my daughters FAther. He had an opinion about my hair, what color it was, how long it was, no decorating in the house that would seem feminine, even down to the furniture, I could have no opinion. I savour being surrounded by flowers, I LOVE my hair short and red and I love how no one has anything to say about it.
the good part of living alone,
being alone is never being blamed
being alone is never having to say you are sorry
being alone is never dealing with more than 1 crazy person.
married men dont live longer it just seems longer.
the good part of living alone,
being alone is never being blamed
being alone is never having to say you are sorry
being alone is never dealing with more than 1 crazy person.
I agree with you there. I live with my daughter who is my primary concern but I am the crazy one. There are times when I have to have silence. AND I mean no matter what else is going on, I have to have silence and how fair would that be if my husband came home after a bad day and needed to talk. There are times when I have to be on my own. I have panic attacks and suffer from PTSD and generalized anxiety disorder. There are times when I struggle to appear normal. It would be really hard to work someone else into my life. At times just the sound of a persons voice annoys me to NO END.
I feel like I have my hands full dealing with my daughter, I just can't add another responsibility to that.
I agree with you there. I live with my daughter who is my primary concern but I am the crazy one. There are times when I have to have silence. AND I mean no matter what else is going on, I have to have silence and how fair would that be if my husband came home after a bad day and needed to talk. There are times when I have to be on my own. I have panic attacks and suffer from PTSD and generalized anxiety disorder. There are times when I struggle to appear normal. It would be really hard to work someone else into my life. At times just the sound of a persons voice annoys me to NO END.
I feel like I have my hands full dealing with my daughter, I just can't add another responsibility to that.
I completely understand. That is why I do not believe in marriage.
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Originally Posted by Lindsey_Mcfarren
I would love some companionship but I don't think I will ever marry again. Ideally I would love to find someone special, have him buy a house in my neighborhood rather then us living together. We could spend most of our time together but then we could still have time apart. We would have our own space but be close enough that it be convenient to get together.
I just don't think I can attach that ball and chain to my ankle again.
...I think I have been single for so that I am not fit to be cooped up with someone else...
Based upon what you've told us, Lindsey_Mcfarren, I tend to agree with you -- you are probably best off living without a man.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting to live with a man. You know yourself --what you want, what makes you happy, and what makes you unhappy (like, say, a guy with a 46 inch LCD Sony and the MLB, NBA, and NFL cable TV game packages). Living with a man does not fit into you happiness equation. I say hooray for you. This self-awareness is a real indicator of maturity and sensibility on your part.
Of course, it may be a little harder for you finding a guy who would be comfortable with an arrangment that would make you happy. But that shouldn't keep you from looking.
I can't even find a guy willing to date me, much less get married!! and I LOVE sports!! I'm not addicted to it or shackled to the tv about it (only during football season!-he he) and I still can't find a man!!
Good for you to express your thoughts, I don't blame you for not wanting to give up your independence and home design, etc. I would hope I could find someone who would appreciate my having a home and not want to take over it as well.
I still hope that I will get married, not because I feel any pressure or it's expected, etc, I just would like to share my love of life, travel, food, etc with someone else.
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you say you will...
