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He doesn't insist on marriage, in fact he thinks of us as married already (shudder). Its marriage in general I'm afraid of. I remember when I was married years ago, it was so bad and I felt so trapped.
LOL. Well, but are you happy? So he is willing to go on in the same way?
I've never been married, but even the first time I was asked, it felt the same way, I shied away like it was a trap. (I knew deep down we weren't right for each other, though.)
I don't want to give advice on whether to marry or not, but I just don't want to see you throw something away that sounds like it's pretty good.
LOL. Well, but are you happy? So he is willing to go on in the same way?
I've never been married, but even the first time I was asked, it felt the same way, I shied away like it was a trap. (I knew deep down we weren't right for each other, though.)
I don't want to give advice on whether to marry or not, but I just don't want to see you throw something away that sounds like it's pretty good.
Do you mind saying how long you've been together?
September 2014 will be 3 years. We live together and I'm pretty sure I would be lost without him and he says the same of me. But there are times when I want to get as far away from him as I can...although truth be told the feeling is about everyone, not just him. I suffer from PTSD and major depression so I don't entirely trust my feelings either way, I just know that sometimes its very difficult, more difficult then I want my life to be. However where does that stem from?? I don't know. I know he has been there when no one else has been. When I thought I had friends and family, they disappeared and Allen was there, just Allen. Most of the time my insanity isn't a huge issue but it goes in swings and round abouts, I'm in a bad phase at the moment.
September 2014 will be 3 years. We live together and I'm pretty sure I would be lost without him and he says the same of me. But there are times when I want to get as far away from him as I can...although truth be told the feeling is about everyone, not just him. I suffer from PTSD and major depression so I don't entirely trust my feelings either way, I just know that sometimes its very difficult, more difficult then I want my life to be. However where does that stem from?? I don't know. I know he has been there when no one else has been. When I thought I had friends and family, they disappeared and Allen was there, just Allen. Most of the time my insanity isn't a huge issue but it goes in swings and round abouts, I'm in a bad phase at the moment.
I know sometimes we feel suffocated, alone and sometimes overwhelmed....
Take a deep breath..... stand back and appreciate the Allen's in this world... cause they aren't around everywhere...
I hope you guys get it together and be happy..... whether that is marriage or just shacking up as they say.......
September 2014 will be 3 years. We live together and I'm pretty sure I would be lost without him and he says the same of me. But there are times when I want to get as far away from him as I can...although truth be told the feeling is about everyone, not just him. I suffer from PTSD and major depression so I don't entirely trust my feelings either way, I just know that sometimes its very difficult, more difficult then I want my life to be. However where does that stem from?? I don't know. I know he has been there when no one else has been. When I thought I had friends and family, they disappeared and Allen was there, just Allen. Most of the time my insanity isn't a huge issue but it goes in swings and round abouts, I'm in a bad phase at the moment.
I'm telling you, I understand everything you're saying (although I don't know the details, obviously, of your experience).
Well, after three years, I would think he knows you, and your concerns. Like I said, I don't feel comfortable giving advice to others, but this situation seems like a good one to me. Try to relax and not put so much pressure on yourself. Hopefully, either way, he'll understand and feel the same way.
I am trying to relax, its hard for me. I was on my own for so many years. It took me forever to get used to him being protective and wanting to do things for me. I think the basic thing here is that neither of us can imagine life without the other. There was about 2 months last year where he was working away from home, the rest of the time, we have always been together.
I am trying to relax, its hard for me. I was on my own for so many years. It took me forever to get used to him being protective and wanting to do things for me. I think the basic thing here is that neither of us can imagine life without the other. There was about 2 months last year where he was working away from home, the rest of the time, we have always been together.
I agree, that sounds like the basic thing.
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