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Old 07-13-2016, 05:53 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I think it has been discussed extensively why you can't meet women on Meetup hikes.

Women don't like hiking, it's possibly better to try cooking classes, painting classes and book clubs.
That's not true. Most of the women I know in Portland and Seattle who hike go with the established clubs, though: the Mazamas and the Mountaineers (Seattle). NW Girl was into hiking, until she gave up. I know women who have been hiking since they were teens.
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Old 07-13-2016, 09:21 PM
 
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Your not buying it doesn't make it less true. Last time I got hit on, I didn't realize I was being hit on because it was another woman! (This was back in October).

I was talking to the artistic director at a local theater the other day. She commented about needing to find a husband for the gal who first told me about the theater. My response was "Screw her! (in jest) Find someone for me instead." She said she'd been trying to find someone for the other gal for years and the problem was the theater has " a lot of nice, amazing single women but we have very few single men around to match them up with." And one of the few is leaving the state.

Most of the women in my circle I've talked to recently are disabling their OLD profiles and are giving up on dating. One had a dozen or so first dates last summer in the span of a month; this time around she's had one in the same time period. I've been trying to explore activities outside my norm to expose myself to new people, but I'm still just meeting single women and married or retired men.
I don't buy it either. All a woman has to do is go sit at a happy hour after work and a guy will talk to her. I've never seen any woman sit at happy hour by herself for more than like 15 minutes without a guy trying to strike up conversation with her. There is not a lack of single men anywhere in the country.

The numbers game pretty much favors women everywhere until you get up into the 60's age bracket when men start dying. When I went to a singles event a while back it was like 3 men for every woman...and that was with them trying to control the ratio even.

In the age 30-45 bracket the numbers game VASTLY favors women. It's not even close.
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Old 07-13-2016, 09:27 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I don't buy it either. All a woman has to do is go sit at a happy hour after work and a guy will talk to her.
Actually, no. You'd be surprised.
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I've never seen any woman sit at happy hour by herself for more than like 15 minutes without a guy trying to strike up conversation with her.
That just means you haven't seen it, not that it doesn't happen. I've seen it, and I've known women who tried it and got nowhere.
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There is not a lack of single men, anywhere in the country. The numbers game pretty much favors women everywhere until you get up into the 60's age bracket when men start dying. When I went to a singles event a while back it was like 3 men for every woman...and that was with them even trying to control the ratio.
It doesn't have anything to do with there being a lack of men. Silicon Valley is Man-Jose, yet cute women go dateless.
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Old 07-14-2016, 09:24 AM
 
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In the age 30-45 bracket the numbers game VASTLY favors women. It's not even close.
Maybe where you live. Here, as an example, speed dating in that age range is always sold out for the women but rarely for the men. In fact, the only age bracket that consistently sells out for men but not women is 22-37 and all the other age brackets sell out for women and not men.

So I guess if the single men are here, they just have no interest in meeting women. I've also posted in the past search results from various points in time from OLD sites in which the women in the 35-48 age bracket outnumbered the number of men on the sites at the same time by almost double.

I've never once been approached sitting in any establishment by myself, be it a bar waiting for friends, a crowded coffee shop, or heck, even when killing time at the library. And forget the gym! The men at the one I go to make it a sport to stare straight ahead so there's absolutely no chance of looking at you.

Hell, half the time when I am at a bar, the bartender doesn't even acknowledge my existence.
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Old 07-14-2016, 10:46 AM
 
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Actually, no. You'd be surprised. That just means you haven't seen it, not that it doesn't happen. I've seen it, and I've known women who tried it and got nowhere. It doesn't have anything to do with there being a lack of men. Silicon Valley is Man-Jose, yet cute women go dateless.
So what you're saying is...the women there are either too picky or aren't interested in dating. There is not a lack of men approaching women that is such a myth. If the numbers game favors women, which it does almost across the board past age 30 in most parts of the country, and they claim they still can't find anyone to date - the issue is with them more than anything.

Like I said last singles event I went to it was like 3 men for every woman...and that was with the organizer even trying to keep the ratio even. I'm going to try one of the singles events that Match advertises and see if they can handle it a little better.

I go to happy hours near huge office buildings that get tons of the after work white collar crowd and I never see it. So yes it might happen but so does someone hitting the Mega Millions or the Powerball.

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Old 07-14-2016, 10:51 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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That just means you haven't seen it, not that it doesn't happen. I've seen it, and I've known women who tried it and got nowhere.
Part of the issue is that I don't know many women who would go to happy hour alone just to pick up (or be picked up by) men, though I'm sure they're out there. Usually happy hour is a group activity with friends and coworkers. I go out after work all the time, and have never (never!) been spoken to by anyone outside of the group that I'm with besides the bartender.
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Old 07-14-2016, 10:54 AM
 
Location: Jupiter
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Your not buying it doesn't make it less true. Last time I got hit on, I didn't realize I was being hit on because it was another woman! (This was back in October).

I was talking to the artistic director at a local theater the other day. She commented about needing to find a husband for the gal who first told me about the theater. My response was "Screw her! (in jest) Find someone for me instead." She said she'd been trying to find someone for the other gal for years and the problem was the theater has " a lot of nice, amazing single women but we have very few single men around to match them up with." And one of the few is leaving the state.

Most of the women in my circle I've talked to recently are disabling their OLD profiles and are giving up on dating. One had a dozen or so first dates last summer in the span of a month; this time around she's had one in the same time period. I've been trying to explore activities outside my norm to expose myself to new people, but I'm still just meeting single women and married or retired men.
Another woman? Please say more
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Old 07-14-2016, 10:58 AM
 
Location: Jupiter
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So what you're saying is...the women there are either too picky or aren't interested in dating. There is not a lack of men approaching women that is such a myth. If the numbers game favors women, which it does almost across the board past age 30 in most parts of the country, and they claim they still can't find anyone to date - the issue is with them more than anything.

Like I said last singles event I went to it was like 3 men for every woman...and that was with the organizer even trying to keep the ratio even. I'm going to try one of the singles events that Match advertises and see if they can handle it a little better.
All a woman has to do is leave her house and she will offers women on here say they rarely get on which I don't believe or buy. Either she's too picky or she ignores men.
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Old 07-14-2016, 11:01 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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All a woman has to do is leave her house and she will offers women on here say they rarely get on which I don't believe or buy. Either she's too picky or she ignores men.
A: do you really believe that? Anytime a woman leaves her house she's approached by men?
and
B: Offers for what?
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Old 07-14-2016, 11:10 AM
 
Location: Jupiter
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A: do you really believe that? Anytime a woman leaves her house she's approached by men?
and
B: Offers for what?
A. Yes I believe that.
B. Offers to get to know a man, sex, or get into a relationship.
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