Have I done enough to turn my wife into a New Modern Woman? (dating, cities)

[marius1815]

Originally Posted by kshe95girl

because true sexual equalness will only be achieved when men are stripped of their masculinity, you are already displaying obvious signs of pre-programming by society, how could you not know that?
You failed to answer my question on just exactly who the WE is that you spoke of earlier.

All those who believe in love, liberty, equality, democracy and human progress.

[kshe95girl]

Originally Posted by marius1815

All those who believe in love, liberty, equality, democracy and human progress.

And you are the designated spokesperson for these souls?

[marius1815]

Originally Posted by kshe95girl

And you are the designated spokesperson for these souls?

Just a humble servant.

Can we get back to the topic of my wife?

[kshe95girl]

Originally Posted by marius1815

Just a humble servant.

Can we get back to the topic of my wife?

Just tryting to understand your idealogy, you have spoken more about your wife in the past few posts thsn you realize......

[marius1815]

Originally Posted by kshe95girl

Just tryting to understand your idealogy, you have spoken more about your wife in the past few posts thsn you realize......

Look I admit that I'm attracted by my wife's "traditional" beauty. But on the other hand from the first time we met:

1. I never let her have any self-esteem from her physical appearance or

2. Her "cute" personality

3. I constantly remind her that she can leave at any time, without concerning me

The fact that this led to our relationship and marriage is proof that my wife desires to be a New Woman.

[kshe95girl]

Originally Posted by marius1815

Look I admit that I'm attracted by my wife's "traditional" beauty. But on the other hand from the first time we met:

1. I never let her have any self-esteem from her physical appearance or

are you sure you mean this statement? You dont let her have any self-esteem?
why is it up to you to LET her have any?



2. Her "cute" personality

is she not supposed to have a personality?

3. I constantly remind her that she can leave at any time, without concerning me

You have failed to say what it is that SHE thinks about your politics.

[marius1815]

Originally Posted by kshe95girl

You have failed to say what it is that SHE thinks about your politics.

She finds politics boring. It only concerns her when it affects our relationship directly.
She still has certain backward tendencies. It was very important to her that we be married in her hometown church and that our wedding ceremony be somewhat "traditional". And she was strongly against an open marriage, and made me promise never to betray her trust.


By not allowing to take self-esteem in her looks or "cuteness", I'm helping her to develop genuine self-worth as a human being.

[kshe95girl]

Originally Posted by marius1815

She finds politics boring. It only concerns her when it affects our relationship directly.

By not allowing to take self-esteem in her looks or "cuteness", I'm helping her to develop genuine self-worth as a human being.

but thats controlling her, cant you see that? Thats the opposite of what it is you are claiming to try to help her with.

[marius1815]

Originally Posted by kshe95girl

but thats controlling her, cant you see that? Thats the opposite of what it is you are claiming to try to help her with.

I don't control her. Unlike most husbands, I don't put any pressure on her whatsoever to stay with me.

When I say I don't "allow", all I mean is that I personally never speak positively about her traits.

I treated her in that manner from when I first met her. So obviously she approves of being a New Woman.

[kshe95girl]

Originally Posted by marius1815

I don't control her. Unlike most husbands, I don't put any pressure on her whatsoever to stay with me.

Thats not what I mean, and you know that..... you are playing head games with her, which is NOT good.