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...you should try to see if you can make it work...
What's with this "should" crap? MYOFB.
This is garbage. If someone sees kids as a deal breaker, that's how they see it. I'm not a women, but kids, even grown up and gone, are a deal breaker.
There is a disconnect between the minds of breeders and the minds of the childfree, "never had 'em, never will," demographic. Different, incompatible sensibilities and priorities. I don't want to be with someone with those breeder sensibilities, and IME, they NEVER go away.
Alot of single girls that i know, have told me that they hesitate to date guys w kids, because their kinda selfish and dont like sharing the guys w his kids. They get upset that on the weekends that the guys have their kids, they cant go out or do anything w them, do you single ladies, hesitate to date guys w kids?
If you are a single dad, I would tell you not to date single, "childfree women". Women that don't want children will not make good stepmothers and tend to be much more selfish than women with children. They don't understand the commitment and great joy of having children in your life. This thread is a good example, they only see children as a burden and expense. Parents know better
If you are a single dad, I would tell you not to date single, "childfree women". Women that don't want children will not make good stepmothers and tend to be much more selfish than women with children. They don't understand the commitment and great joy of having children in your life. This thread is a good example, they only see children as a burden and expense. Parents know better
Speak for yourself. Children are a burden and increasingly, a useless one.
I'm in a relationship with a guy right now,and he has a son!At first I was likeawl hell naw,until I he realized this wasn't what he wanted!With men who have children and are there for them I give them props,but you have to deal with so much depending on what the child's mother feels about the father!For instance my boyfriends childs mother is a ***** she sends her child out looking like he's homeless when he comes over here just so he could go spend money on him,and like a dummy he does!!And child support hits him up every 2 weeks collecting 150 dollars!!He is a good man to me and his son!But that extra gets on my nerves!Single women DoNot date men with kids unless it doesn't bother you to have to deal with dramatic ass baby mothers!!
I'm in a relationship with a guy right now,and he has a son!At first I was likeawl hell naw,until I he realized this wasn't what he wanted!With men who have children and are there for them I give them props,but you have to deal with so much depending on what the child's mother feels about the father!For instance my boyfriends childs mother is a ***** she sends her child out looking like he's homeless when he comes over here just so he could go spend money on him,and like a dummy he does!!And child support hits him up every 2 weeks collecting 150 dollars!!He is a good man to me and his son!But that extra gets on my nerves!Single women DoNot date men with kids unless it doesn't bother you to have to deal with dramatic ass baby mothers!!
Very true and it gets worse if one marries. Often the new wife finds herself supporting the kids and even the ex wife.
I like to say that men with children seem to place finances on women that don't have children for no reason.... I understand that women with no children have money because they only take care of them selves, this do not mean that men with children go out there way to be with women that don't. It can be painful for us because some guys think they can change a woman for what ever reason of his choice and that shows SELFISHNESS, BACK STABBER, AND SOMEONE WHOM THINKS HE IS ALL THAT. It is not fare to end up with a guy like that.... your loosing out on happiness, but he is happy so he is fighting you to stay... or he is seeking negative anything so he can give himself an excuse to get revenge and these type of guys have more issues about life it self $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$, and $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$, so this helps him in the long run not his partner HE wants to be with...
I hestitate dating guys with kids because I don't want kids, and a guy who has kids will always have to deal with his ex. That said, I'd never be jealous of a man spending time with his children--that's what a father is supposed to do.
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I don't date guys with kids. It has nothing to do with being jealous of the time he spends with them. If a guy has kids, they should be his first priority and any woman who dates him needs to accept and support that.
I have never wanted kids. Lots of women make the choice to not have kids. There's nothing wrong with that. Not dating a guy because he has kids isn't selfish, it's just an honest acknowledgment that we are not compatible in a critical aspect of a relationship.
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YES!! I refuse to date any man with kids. Especially if the kids were ill behaved. I've felt that way all of my life.
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I knew a girl who was a single mom that wanted a guy who accepted her child, but she refused to date a guy with kids because she didn't want to deal with drama with his ex.
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I hate dating a guy with kids and I usually RUN when I find out he has them. Not that I want/need all his attention, but I cannot deal with the baggage a child brings. No I do not want to go to Chuck-E-Cheese, no I do not want to got to the park, no I do not want to see a kids movie with you and your kid(s). And I find that most of the time the men/women are not over each other especially if the kid is five or under.
I think when it comes to dating, finding a mate that can produce the same as you is the best you do. I have no kids, you shouldnt either if we are dating.
Kid(s) is a deal breaker is most cases!
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Yes, dealbreaker for me..
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I'm childfree.
I don't date guys with kids.
Why would I? I have no interest in kids, any of them.
Wow, you're judging people because they want to live the life that they want?
It's not selfish at all to take care of yourself first.
For me, kids are definitely a deal breaker. I don't want my own; I certainly don't want anyone else's.
I myself never married and I don't have any kids, and I am currently dating a single mom with 4 kids, and I look at some of the responses on this thread. I was always honest with my girlfriend when I said that I wouldn't marry someone who has a large family of kids who are not from me. It is interesting how many people were judgmental toward me because I didn't want to marry her because she has 4 kids that are not mine, but most women themselves don't want to date single dads for that same reason. LOL. That's why I don't feel obligated to marry a single woman with a large family of kids none of which are from me. Not only because the 4 kids are not mine. But also because I know that no one who do the same for me if I was in her situation!
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