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Believe me, I've had plenty of chances over the years. No way, my co-worker who did this made a royal a** out of himself and the rest of us had to straighten him out. Some husbands and BFs did too!LOL........
Last edited by 2RUGGED4YOU; 06-21-2010 at 07:44 PM..
Not that I would deliberately go after a guy in a relationship, but to me people who are not married or engaged are single and their arrangements can and do change.
I would never go after a married or engaged man with the idea of "stealing him" and making him my own. If a guy has a girlfriend I also won't pursue him - however if he chases after me and is unhappy in his current relationship I would go out with him only if he ends the other relationship first.
Some people only consider being married taken.Like right before a wedding,people who are engaged says that the day of their bachelor or bachelorette party is their last day as a single man/woman.(Maybe that is just a saying)But to me if someone is engaged or is someone boyfriend/girlfriend,I still consider them taken. What do you think?
I will only date a man who is SINGLE. No girlfriend, no wife, no other woman in the picture. If he likes me, its his responsibility to break off his commitment to his girlfriend, before he approaches me. Anything else, and my answer is "No way!". In fact, I know a guy I USED to be friends with, until he mentioned that he didn't want his girlfriend knowing about me. So I said "Well, why the hell not????" He said she didn't have to know, then proceeded to try to seduce me! JERK! His morality is nowhere in my vicinity, so now I don't talk to him.
Plus, if a man cheats on his girlfriend to be with you, then he'll cheat on you till the ring is on as well. (Or even after!)
It's not adultery or cheating unless there's a marriage.
Like others said, people have every right to change their mind until they actually make that committment and not many people end up marrying their first girlfriend/boyfriend. Just because someone has had a second date with someone, doesn't mean they're just like married and can never date someone else.
Of course it's different if it's your best pal or best friend's girlfriend or boyfriend, or a sibling's or close cousin's.
As a young gal I used to feel that one should never cheat with another's girlfriend or boyfriend. But the wisdom that comes with time has changed my mind. Unless there is an engagement or children already , I now feel that this actually IS the time for people to change their minds or be persuaded to change their minds.
Of course when people live together before at least being engaged, things get complicated which is another non-religious reason to avoid merging lives too soon.
Its not something I would ever have done to someone ( date a person with a SO), but alot of grief could be saved if people were honest about their attractions and commitment before getting married or having a commitment ceremony or whatever statement is made to the world that one is totally off the market.
That grey area before a big commitment is made is indeed the best time for temptations to have their effect known.
I wasn't talking to you. And if my post is so dumb then why did you post anything here?
My apologies, I mistakenly thought this was an open forum. Mea culpa! Guess I'd better research the meaning of the word "forum" even though I thought I knew it.
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