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I see what you're saying and I agree. what I meant was, if people are just not proving their commitment to each other in some way, then one or the other is going to keep looking for something better, that's just life, signed paper or not.
As for me, I believe in marriage and the way I see it, if a man isn't gonna be serious enough to propose after things are getting serious enough to consider it and I've shown my devotion to him, then I better find someone who will. And if one won't, someone else will and that's the point I was trying to make, that I'm fair game to another man, as long as we're "in a relationship". It may not mean I want to be fair game, but I pretty much am so if I'm unhappy in a relationship and I don't see it going anywhere, I'm at liberty to take the "better" partner at my convenience. That's not cheating, its just looking for "the one".
ciera-I agree, but if he's lying about his status, he clearly isn't going to make that commitment of marriage and is himself either looking for "the one" or just an a*shole who takes his SO for granted. In either case, that would still make the 2 people technically "single" since it becomes obvious its not forever with a couple like that.
And to the person that said a man can cheat in a marriage too and/or in a "relationship", well if he shows fidelity issues in any way before the marriage, the women who marries him is blind and chose poorly.
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Originally Posted by mir86
ya, that's the whole point of the OP and some people are taking it the wrong way. "dating" and "relationships" is nothing but a test of seeing "is this person marriage material" and if you're not dating for that reason, then you're just sleeping around, in my opinion or wasting yours and the other persons time. If people see in this testing stage that its not going to the altar, then it needs to end and that is why essentially you're "single" unless that happens, which is when the "relationship" is moved to the "engagement" stage then marriage.
As they move along in their daily activities they make it known.
When Mr. New guy comes along they seem to let it be known they are taken. HOWEVER, shortly there after "Mr. New guy" gets a call informing him that they are now in a single state.
How soon some women get over a long term relationship.
So it's like they all have a relationship so as to not look different but then when they see something new they want they dump their current boyfriend and pursue the new eye candy.
Have had and heard that happen quite often.
They have a man, but they offer friendship.
All of a sudden the guy is gone in the wind......
That looks like a situation of trying to get another bird in hand before letting the first one fly.
if he is living with another woman, he is not available. he is also a cheater if he sees you, this should be a head up but for many woman its not. we live in a strange society, we only have male cheaters. in greece its the tempter that is evil-- here its the one with the erection.
Just an observation, there is always one tempter and one who allows him or herself to be tempted. If a man who is already in a relationship decides to hit on a woman, she is not the tempter. He is the head of whatever household he is residing in, and it is his responsibility to avoid doing anything to destroy that household. Women have sexual desires, too. They don't have to act on every single desire they feel. They have the power to decline an invitiation extended to them.
Not single until married, other than tax purposes. If you have a steady S/O, you're involved and off limits. The end.
There are a lot more entities than tax purposes. Welfare for example is predicated on whether you are married or single and they don't care if you're in a relationship or engaged. Unemployement. Insurance paperwork you fill out at the hopital. Health and doctor records -whether you're married on not has a signifiant factor in your health. Census records and the amount of resouces allocated to individual areas based on this information - i.e, single mothers or fathers. And form after form after form has a check box single or married and not sub obtions as described above.
Plus one has to first define what a 'relationship' is and from the looks of it marriage needs to be defined as well.
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It's not up to your friends to decide the rules in someone else's relationship. It sounds more like justification to feed their egos with the conquest of tagging someone else's man. Just my opinion.
I totally agree. Sounds like a bunch of desperates who cannot get a man of their own.
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