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I'm 35 and still living at home after many years. I get paid about $40k a year at my job. To me, living at home just seems so normal. I never moved out. There's no wasting money on rent, mortgages, anything.. Just about everything I make is saved(I have a large bank balance now) or spent on luxuries like trips abroad, restaurants, and so forth. The way the economy is, it makes sense to just stay at home. Wages are stagnant/declining so why the rush to waste precious money on a roof over my head when I've already got it paid for? My parents charge me nothing. I pay $0 for rent and $0 for utilities each month. Even food is mostly free. Anybody else still living like this in their 30's and 40's like I do? I'm happy with the situation and will most likely stay with my parents until I inherit their $350k house.
Is this a joke? "There's no wasting money on rent or mortgages" I bet you are glad your parents don't think that way and live with their parents, otherwise you would be forced to grow up.
I could never live with the stench of being an utter failure and not being able, mentally and economically, to live on my own. That amount of embarrassment (whether he realizes it or not, it's 100% real and noticeable) would lead to severe depression at the realization I'm going to be a lifelong loser with no future.
I could never live with the stench of being an utter failure and not being able, mentally and economically, to live on my own. That amount of embarrassment (whether he realizes it or not, it's 100% real and noticeable) would lead to severe depression at the realization I'm going to be a lifelong loser with no future.
Oh, he has a future. When his parents die, he will inherit their 350,000 dollar house. (snort)!
I think parents failed when their kids aren't independent. Give your child a fish it will last a day, teach your child to fish, it will last for a life time.
Your child needs to be able to know how to catch all kinds of fish, even much bigger fish than you could ever catch, that's the true success of being parents.
The OP posted this on the "bum" thread:
"I already live like a bum. I'm living on about $200 a month. Mainly restaurant meals. Car is paid for by my father. So for me, $5,000 would last about 2 years. Remember, the more people you parasite off of, the longer it can last."
Disgusting.
One day, when OP have children, they will learn to do the same to him.
Even if both parties are fine with the arrangement, it is not attractive to date someone like this...
Incidentally, I do know of someone - a close relative - who also lived with his parents until they passed away. This is someone in a professional job, so fairly intelligent and quite able to support himself financially if he opted to live independently. But he never did. He got married after his mother died - he was mid life then, and married someone with serious emotional problems. I guess the saying that "water seeks its own level" is true with this man.
I'm 35 and still living at home after many years. I get paid about $40k a year at my job. To me, living at home just seems so normal. I never moved out. There's no wasting money on rent, mortgages, anything.. Just about everything I make is saved(I have a large bank balance now) or spent on luxuries like trips abroad, restaurants, and so forth. The way the economy is, it makes sense to just stay at home. Wages are stagnant/declining so why the rush to waste precious money on a roof over my head when I've already got it paid for? My parents charge me nothing. I pay $0 for rent and $0 for utilities each month. Even food is mostly free. Anybody else still living like this in their 30's and 40's like I do? I'm happy with the situation and will most likely stay with my parents until I inherit their $350k house.
Well, I did move home after 1998. Mom was going downhill, I wasn't married and basically had nothing special going.
Stayed with her till 2006 she went to hospice, I went to MO. She died 9 months later...I was 38 when I moved in, 46 when I left.
It really seems strange. Don't you want your own home? Don't you want to have a place that you can decorate as you want, where you can have friends over when you want, without your parents being in the way?
And - don't your parents want their home to themselves? Maybe they would like it if you would pay rent - have you ever offered to pay rent?
Do you help with household chores, or do they do it all for you?
What happens if you get married? Would you expect your new spouse to move in with you and your parents?
This seems strange, as though you are not willing to grow up and accept adult responsibilities, financially and for maintaining a roof over your head.
In other countries, they may live this way. But this is America, not other countries.
This! I have an acquaintance who lived with his parents under the same conditions.
He moved out when he was in his mid 30s.
He's now 50 and is still pretty clueless in so many ways.
So much of life is learned by struggling to get where you want to be and creates your character.
Cannot imagine living like that or ever dating someone who did.
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) or spent on luxuries like trips abroad, restaurants, and so forth. The way the economy is, it makes sense to just stay at home. Wages are stagnant/declining so why the rush to waste precious money on a roof over my head when I've already got it paid for? My parents charge me nothing. I pay $0 for rent and $0 for utilities each month. Even food is mostly free. Anybody else still living like this in their 30's and 40's like I do? I'm happy with the situation and will most likely stay with my parents until I inherit their $350k house
