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Old 10-25-2016, 07:47 PM
 
Location: sumter
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my daughter's....she was 4
So sorry for your loss.
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Old 10-25-2016, 09:26 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Family brawl in the parking lot of the funeral home. Biting, hair pulling, broken noses, nasty.

Care to flesh that out a bit? Sounds fascinating in a sick way. Any funeral director can tell us that death sometimes brings out the worst in families which are already fractured in some way, as the resentments and jealousies of many years come to the fore and struggles for dominance increase in intensity.
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Old 10-25-2016, 10:36 PM
 
Location: Nebraska
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My dad's. My son was so hungover from the night before that he threw up during the service. Really could have killed him. We had the luncheon at his house. He got into a scuffle with one of my cousins, can't remember who. And then him and his wife started fighting.

My son's funeral three years later

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Old 10-25-2016, 11:03 PM
 
Location: Under the Milky Way
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my daughter's....she was 4
My deepest sympathy for your tragic loss.

ETA: And also to all others who have lost a child. I can't begin to imagine the pain.
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Old 10-26-2016, 12:44 AM
 
Location: Scott County, Tennessee/by way of Detroit
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Two come to mind....one for a coworkers dad...they had him laid out at the cheapest creepiest funeral home and they had money. Just about all the relatives were bombed because they had booze in the basement. ..A few years later the law closed the place down for things they did with remains. ...Then my husband's coworkers mom died. .His wife had her purse next to the casket and her phone kept going off to that Katy Perry song HOT N COLD...I bet it rang 10 times...that ringtone on LOUD. .it was horrible like what on earth is with these people?
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Old 10-26-2016, 12:45 AM
 
Location: Glasgow Scotland
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So sorry for your loss.
so awful to lose a child.. its not the way it should happen...
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Old 10-26-2016, 12:51 AM
 
Location: Glasgow Scotland
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The saddest Ive been to was my uncles, he had cancer and not long to live... his daughter who had just had a baby took a diabetic fit and died tragically.... her baby was born with a deformed spine and a big bump on its brow.. she died six weeks after her mum.. then my uncle died a few weeks later... it was the most tragic of funerals as his wife was devastated, she had lost so much in such a short time.. no one knew what to say..
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Old 10-26-2016, 04:22 AM
 
Location: northern New England
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I guess the opposite of the Baptist hellfire sermons would be the Catholic ones, like my dad's. He had not been to church in 20 years (big no-no for Catholics) but the priest was sure he was up in Heaven in Jesus's arms, to hear him tell it.

I am not a big believer in wakes/funerals, as my sister-in-law says, "People don't come and look at me while I am sleeping, why should they do it when I am dead?"
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Old 10-26-2016, 08:20 AM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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My son's friend died on the morning before senior prom. We went to the calling hours, but not the funeral. Picture a room full of high school kids and their parents deeply grieving. It was awful, and I don't know how the parents of his friend got through it.
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Old 10-26-2016, 08:30 AM
 
Location: The Heart of Dixie
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My mother's funeral. One of her preacher cousins performed the service. He didn't even know my name (I was called "the daughter") and he went into preaching mode after talking maybe a couple of minutes about her. My dad told me later that it took everything in him to sit quietly as long as he did and if it had gone on for another minute, he was going to stand up and make a scene.

In retrospect I would have changed her service a lot, but she died suddenly and unexpectedly so there were absolutely no plans or wishes of hers to follow and my dad and I were rather shocked so we just went with what was the most logical.
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