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Something that I've noticed is that certain women don't like it if other women don't feel insecure about themselves. I can be pretty self depricating about my flaws and that seems to bother other women at times. They want me to cry and complain about things I can't (or won't) change? Not. Also this type will get pissy when you are happy for them if they get attention. Men will say "go for it" if their friend scores a cute girl. Women want their friends to be jealous and upset if they get an attractive man. They want other women to want their guy, not to be happy for them! Stooooopid games.
well I dont know why but I went to a bacherolette (sp) party and this one girl said to me. You know I have never met a nicer bunch of women than were in that limo and at that party . She proceeded to tell me that she had never seen women get along so well . I think it was cause we were all related in one way or another . I just could not believe a woman would say that . I think women need to stick together the way some men do .
This is true. Listen to the way women are describing one another in this thread. Don't you get the impression that most of the women that most of these female posters know are insufferable harpies and lunatics?
I think it's pretty common for women to say how they usually don't prefer women friends. I used to say that. I probably even said it on CD somewhere. The usual explanation for why male friends are preferred is that women are complicated, difficult or downright crazy. But now that I really think about it, why did I think that? Pretty much all the women I know are tolerable human beings. A few of them make me a little nuts because they're flaky or rude, but the mean, catty, insecure women? The cruel gossips? The psycho stalker? I can't think of enough women who fit that category to make any meaningful number.
It just makes me wonder if women claim to dislike other women just because we think we're supposed to.
This is true. Listen to the way women are describing one another in this thread. Don't you get the impression that most of the women that most of these female posters know are insufferable harpies and lunatics?
I think it's pretty common for women to say how they usually don't prefer women friends. I used to say that. I probably even said it on CD somewhere. The usual explanation for why male friends are preferred is that women are complicated, difficult or downright crazy. But now that I really think about it, why did I think that? Pretty much all the women I know are tolerable human beings. A few of them make me a little nuts because they're flaky or rude, but the mean, catty, insecure women? The cruel gossips? The psycho stalker? I can't think of enough women who fit that category to make any meaningful number.
It just makes me wonder if women claim to dislike other women just because we think we're supposed to.
At least in my case...NO. My life would be much easier and stressfree if I got along with my female coworkers (they have the power in my office). Besides it is not that I don't get along with them-but they do not get along with me.
At least in my case...NO. My life would be much easier and stressfree if I got along with my female coworkers (they have the power in my office). Besides it is not that I don't get along with them-but they do not get along with me.
Well, I cannot completely rule out the possibility that I am incredibly naive.
Oh my, what kind of women are you people hanging out with???
Of course there are women I get on with and women I don't get on with, but on the whole I find women lovely. By far the majority of my office are women and everyone is so nice and supportive of each other. Occassionally people make catty remarks, but I just don't engage with that stuff. I think you get back what you give out - I try to be nice and friendly, so they are too. One girl was a bit 'chilly' to start with, but now even she's warmed up.
Why on earth would you be friends with a person who wouldn't be happy for you?? I'm always happy for my friends if something good happens for them and they always seem very happy for me.
Last night my dh was out watching a game - I mentioned it on Facebook and immidately got invited out to dinner with a couple of girl friends. That's what women do - they're there for chats, fun days out, bouncing ideas off and I love hanging out with other girls.
I have never even seen a fight between two women or heard of any of my friends (or anyone I know) being involved in such a thing.
This is a sad, sad thread, but know that we don't all think of women in such a negative way.
I try to surround myself with positive people so perhaps that's why my experiences are different.
Oh my, what kind of women are you people hanging out with???
Of course there are women I get on with and women I don't get on with, but on the whole I find women lovely. By far the majority of my office are women and everyone is so nice and supportive of each other. Occassionally people make catty remarks, but I just don't engage with that stuff. I think you get back what you give out - I try to be nice and friendly, so they are too. One girl was a bit 'chilly' to start with, but now even she's warmed up.
Why on earth would you be friends with a person who wouldn't be happy for you?? I'm always happy for my friends if something good happens for them and they always seem very happy for me.
Last night my dh was out watching a game - I mentioned it on Facebook and immidately got invited out to dinner with a couple of girl friends. That's what women do - they're there for chats, fun days out, bouncing ideas off and I love hanging out with other girls.
I have never even seen a fight between two women or heard of any of my friends (or anyone I know) being involved in such a thing.
This is a sad, sad thread, but know that we don't all think of women in such a negative way. I try to surround myself with positive people so perhaps that's why my experiences are different.
Well, I've seen this too. But are you saying that you are unaware of the opposite? If so, you might get yourself a new neighbor, a family of new neighbors. Sounds like a pretty hip, progressive place.
My neighbors probably wouldn't be the ones I'd hang out with.
You don't have to be sorry you brought it up - it's a valid question. It was just sad to see all the responses from people who seem to have difficulty in their female relationships.
I know this can be a problem for girls at school and I think it's great that you are doing research, but do remember that there are probably some wonderful young girls who will grow up into wonderful young women with lots of wonderful female friends. Hopefully your daughter and her friends will be some of these.
Yes, I tend to think this is a girl or young woman situation, though I guess I have met older women who never "matured". And I have met this type in the workplace. But all the women I now know and hang out with (and I am happy to say that I am fortunate in having a lot of female friends) are supportive and my best cheerleaders. Maybe it takes coming into middle-age - I don't know. I know at our age we can pick and choose. But I have never felt unkindly towards anyone unless they have been unkind toward me.
Current gf basically manages at a gym type complex. Most of the employees are women and frankly she should keep a large spray bottle handy at all times to break up the inevitable cat fights.
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