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Anybody else still strongly believe in tradition like me and keep the man's family name in marriage. I am a man and my wife took my last name. No hyphen with her last name and mine, just my last name. And, did not keep her last name when we married like some women do!!
I really appreciate women that take the last name of the man, and keep the tradition.
It was the right thing for me to do.
But other women have good reasons not to, and I respect that.
I took my first husband's name. After he passed away and I eventually got married again I kept his name because my son wanted me to have his last name. Plus, it was easier at my age owning properties and such.
Seems pretty common. Most women I know who are divorced keep their married last name to keep the same name as their children. It's just a societal norm that has hundreds if not thousands of years behind it. I say it's up to the woman but there are bigger issues out there than this.
Anybody else still strongly believe in tradition like me and keep the man's family name in marriage. I am a man and my wife took my last name. No hyphen with her last name and mine, just my last name. And, did not keep her last name when we married like some women do!!
I really appreciate women that take the last name of the man, and keep the tradition.
No. As with other traditional gender roles, this tradition need to fade away.
I also believe children should take their mothers surname.
I took my first husbands surname. This is my second marriage and I just can't be bothered with all the screeds of paperwork to change my name so I kept my maiden name. Hubby doesn't care and I don't give a rats ass what other people think.
I think it depends on the couple. I actually would like it if she took my last name if we were to marry, but it isn't that big of a deal at the end of the day.
In actuality, I have a fairly common last name and it's pretty "vanilla" so to speak. Mrs. Chow has a cool sounding and sort of rare Hispanic surname, so I wouldn't blame her if she didn't want my whitebread last name....
I think that as some of the ladies here posted that it's a PITA to deal with the paperwork and all that, so 2nd marriages it makes a whole lot of sense to keep their name.
Mrs. Chow's mom kept her 2nd husband's last name and I'm sure for the reasons I just mentioned.
Last edited by Chowhound; 02-14-2014 at 02:00 PM..
That is sure strange to me, and I would not accept this, but thank you for sharing. I've never heard of this.
The fact is that in many parts of the world women keep their family name, and that is *traditional* in their culture. The Western cultural tradition of a woman taking her husbands name stems from the fact that she and their children became his property when they married, much like slaves were given the masters' last name.
That is why a lot of women and feminists reject the tradition, and frankly I think they should. Why should women give up their identity and cultural heritage tied to their family name?
It's one of those things very few men seem to want to let go of, even the supposedly pro-equality types who expect to go dutch from day one.
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