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Exactly. Given that I'm 49, we have lots of single 40ish women friends in our lives, so we hear their dating stories. All of them, even though their are intelligent and attractive, would practically kill to go out on a date.
Really...? Do you know this for a fact or are you projecting your opinion?
Why is it every time someone is single it's their fault?
I'm not saying that it isn't, but I've just noticed that that's the case.
It's usually not completely their fault. There are powerful social forces out there that can prevent some people from ever finding a girlfriend/boyfriend.
Also some strong, muscular and high-status men can prevent other, apparently weaker, lower-status men from ever having a girlfriend.
Our OP doesn't really want any help, he's just yanking our chains.
What he really wants is to justify his state of singleness to make himself feel better about it.
And hey, being single for life is a choice some people make - nothing wrong with that.
I just think it's extremely disingenuous to say you've chosen this life on one thread, then try to blame women for where you find himself on another (this one)
This is what our OP wrote on the "Terrified of Being Alone" thread:
12-12-2011, 11:46 PM
CtownKeith
Member
Well ya see Im 45 and single by choice. I live in an emmaculate apartment no pets no kids no hassel lol. Just me myself and my hobbies. What could be better than that? And if folks think Im wrong by not living by norm by marrying and having kids, well they can sit on it!
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Ah you nailed it LM. I love these posters that beat their manly single chests in one thread, and sniffle and stomp feet it another.
It's usually not completely their fault. There are powerful social forces out there that can prevent some people from ever finding a girlfriend/boyfriend.
Also some strong, muscular and high-status men can prevent other, apparently weaker, lower-status men from ever having a girlfriend.
Im 45 never been married. Work at a good Government job in the IT field but I can't get a second date. Now I'm no Brad Pitt but I think women should look past looks and see me for my stability and what I could potentially bring to a relationship.
Stable, respectable, and having a good job is to me the basics of being an adult. Most of the women I know want more than filling out basic life functions for their romantic partners.
What do you bring to the table that would have a person wanting to be with you romantically: Are you interesting, funny, charming, charismatic, and fun to be around?
What life do you bring to the table that would have a person wanting to be a part of it: Do you have an active social life, worthwhile social circle, and appealing life experiences?
The women I know want a physical connection.
Do you approach any woman no matter what she looks like to see if she has stability and what she can bring potentially to a relationship? If not then don't ask someone to do what you can't.
The women I know want a mental connection.
That's where compatibility comes in and the can't get a second date hints at incompatibility.
Or it could be your behavior was a turn off, the way you treat it, the conversation was boring/stale/awkward, and/or the dinner was off putting.
The women I know want an emotional connection.
That's where personality & enjoying being around him comes in.
The can't get a second date hints at they don't like your personality or enjoy being around you.
Or it could be that the date was unenjoyable so that lacking experience was connected to you therefore you're unenjoyable.
Since you want women to look past your appearance you're going to have to step up in the mental and emotional connection bits.
im unstable, semi respectful and have a crappy job
seems to be easy to meet people!
Do you attract stable people?
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