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Originally Posted by calipoppy
Relationships between WM/BW tend to be based on factors that extend beyond the superficial. The majority of Black women in relationships with White men do not view their partners as a "trophy" and therefore the relationships are built upon more solid foundations.
In (some/many) relationships between BM/WW, there tends to be an objectification (or even an idealization) of WW and a superficiality that does not stand the test of time and is not able to sustain a long-term marriage. If you read many of the comments on this thread and others of similar topic, many of the Black men who post reference women's looks and physique. These are superficial factors that do not hold marriages together. Common interests, similar values, compatible education level, similar professional backgrounds, etc are what defines relationships of greater longevity.
The statistics speak for themselves...
A 2008 study by Jenifer L. Bratter and Rosalind B. King conducted on behalf of the Education Resources Information Center examined whether crossing racial boundaries increased the risk of divorce.[9] Using the 2002 National Survey of Family Growth (Cycle VI), the likelihood of divorce for interracial couples to that of same-race couples was compared.
White wife/Black husband marriages are twice as likely to divorce by the 10th year of marriage compared to White/White couples, while White wife/Asian husband marriages are 59% more likely to end in divorce compared to White/White unions.[9] Conversely, White men/non-White women couples show either very little or no differences in divorce rates.[9] Asian wife/White husband marriages show only 4% greater likelihood of divorce by the 10th year of marriage than White/White couples.[9] In the case of Black wife/White husband marriages, divorce by the 10th year of marriage is 44% less likely than among White/White unions.[9
Interracial marriage in the United States - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
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Sorry I don't buy it. Quite the contrary black women value and emulate caucasian aesthetics from their personal investment in the multi billion hair straightening, weave and wig buying, to abusing and adapting their appearence by utilizing skin lighteners. Black men never do any of the above.
Having a white male partner simply makes the fantasy become a full blown reality for them. In their minds, they can not only
look like a white woman, but the idea of being his mate becomes the missing piece of the puzzle.
A black woman is just like any other "independent" minded woman with an entitlement mentality. Many of them figure that if they attain a certain degree of higher education; can attain a specific career title and income, in addition to residing in specific neighborhoods, taking vacations to certain places with a pertinence for other "eclectic"
eurocentric tastes (wine, trips to Martha's Vinyard etc), and other trajectories that elevate themselves into a
white oriented black-less social world, then it only makes senes that their having a white male by virtue of his
racially inherited social status is no different to her than any other commodity, whether it's a Louis Vutton bag or an expensive luxury car.
Overall, black women are much more heavily invested into eurocentric ideals than black men ever were.
Your dreaming if you think it plays out any differently. Black women are just as "brainwashed" by observing a lifetime of white males being epitomized as social status sex symbols ("white" knights in shining armor) as any minority male has observed in white women being held up as the most attractive female.
furthermore, there isn't
any evidence to subtantiate your claim that white male and black female pairings are economically, academically or socially compatiable than any other pairing. You simply made that up lol.
If anything, from what I've noticed, the black women tend to be
more educated,
more financially stable,
more upwardly mobile and
far better looking than their white male counterparts. I hear black women
often commenting on some of the white women that some black men date, but I think it's
high time someone spoke on the
John Goodman's and
Peter Griffens that I've witnessed "Halle Berry" walking around with lately as well. Many of you conveniently talk about how good the black female partner looks, but you tend to leave out the issue of to how unattractive their white male counterparts are.
Either way, even if you read the full study on divorce rates of interracial marriage, white female/black male, as well as white female/Asian male couples tend to have the HIGHEST divorce rates attributed to external influences such as "racism." Asian males are financially and academically the most "successful" men in America per capita, yet when paired with a white female they tend to have HIGHER divorce rates than normal. Why is that?
White/White couples also have HIGHER divorce rates than black female/white male couples as well. If you attribute the "success" of compatibility between BW/WM as having the lowest divorce rates in comparison to other couples (NOT just black male/white famale) regardless of the combination--then you are essentially stating that black women and white men are socially, academically, financially and have values in closer alignment with one another more than any other pairing--interracial or intraracial. I wonder if white guys are flattered by that assertion?
Plus, white male/black female data is skewed due to their much lower numbers and higher age ranges (i.e. the black women tend to be older, and lonely; the white males older and divorced). There's far more varience with black male/white female couples in both income, age range, academic achievement.