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Old 02-25-2013, 10:19 AM
 
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Not really trying to attract anyone...it's a waste of time. If she doesn't like me for me, then I'm fine dying alone. The only problem is the sex...fortunately for me, I can buy it. Sucks that your type sells it, but why would I complain?
I don't know what "your type sells it" is supposed to mean. Although, you touch on the heart of the issue. A person will either like you or not and I don't think it has much to do with physique, but personality.

 
Old 02-25-2013, 10:22 AM
 
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I don't know what "your type sells it" is supposed to mean. Although, you touch on the heart of the issue. A person will either like you or not and I don't think it has much to do with physique, but personality.
I think he's inferring you're a hooker

Men and women are attracted to a whole gamut of looks. If you believe they're only attracted to Hollywood types then you're either really sheltered or really stupid.
 
Old 02-25-2013, 10:26 AM
 
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I think he's inferring you're a hooker
That level of idiocacy speaks to my original point. They're not getting laid, without paying for it I guess, because they're socially inept morons.
 
Old 02-25-2013, 10:38 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I don't know what "your type sells it" is supposed to mean. Although, you touch on the heart of the issue. A person will either like you or not and I don't think it has much to do with physique, but personality.
I don't think we can be friends anymore. I'd rather not be friends with "your type." I don't fraternize with hookers.
 
Old 02-25-2013, 10:41 AM
 
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only gay men truly seem to flaunt their sexuality or see themselves as sexual beings. The only way for most men to truly feel 'sexy' is to enter into a gay relationship, I think. Only a minority of women are sexually aggressive enough.

If you really think this then you might want to look into a gay relationship-give it a whirl.
 
Old 02-25-2013, 10:52 AM
 
Location: FL
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The first is an assumption, sure, but I'm going to put it to you that I believe that most heterosexual men with a 'normal' sex drive would probably not turn down an average (average as in average) woman - or rather her body - for sex, in a world where sex was guilt-free and freely available and totally detached from relationships and other measures.

My question is, would you say the opposite is untrue or true? Give reasons. From what I've read/heard.etc it seems the opposite doesn't seem true. Like I said in a previous post, few women these days seem like big fans of the male gender as a whole, just a select few. The average male body is not seen as sexy, whereas a woman who just doesn't eat much can be sexy. Women fawn over men with exceptional physiques yet many say average men just having boring bodies. They tend to woo them through non-physical means. How often are men with average or thinner or slightly chubbier body types held up as being sexy innately, and not as some corny representation of domination/power?

This, of course, is ignoring the elephant in the room which is the idea that women supposedly care less about looks than men. If this is the case, then an average male body should be acceptable as long as he fits her other criteria - confidence, strength.etc. It gets complicated when the appearance of strength is a physical attribute.
Cool thread. An average guy can be very attractive if he is not arrogant. He does not need to be fabio to attract a girl that might be a bit out of his rank.
There are some very attractive males that can be a complete disaster for some even more attractive females.
Here is another interesting case; I knew a guy who was 300 lb, pear body shape (large hips) and elephant legs, but boy he thought he was so hott!!! On the other hand, there are some men that are a bit too hard on themselves and they look amazing and they end up in the bad relationships with less than average looking woman....
I guess it is how we see ourselves. It is how strong our desires and personalities are.
My thing is, your body is a gift. You do need to take care of it, so is your mind. We all make our final selections in a partner based on experience. Not media.
 
Old 02-25-2013, 11:11 AM
 
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I dated guys of all shapes and sizes - and I was attracted to all of them. And most of them are married now - so it's not like I was the only woman to ever find them attractive.
thats my point...most women are currently dating average sized men, whether the women have exceptional bodies or not, they are most likely dating what is available to them, which is average sized men, this is what I see anyway. Women are far more forgiving in the looks dept than men...i'm not even sure why that point is even up for debate
 
Old 02-25-2013, 11:17 AM
 
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I don't think we can be friends anymore. I'd rather not be friends with "your type." I don't fraternize with hookers.
Indeed, especially 8 month pregnant, married hookers.
 
Old 02-25-2013, 11:17 AM
 
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...i'm not even sure why that point is even up for debate
...Because debating is fun!
 
Old 02-25-2013, 11:20 AM
 
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thats my point...most women are currently dating average sized men, whether the women have exceptional bodies or not, they are most likely dating what is available to them, which is average sized men, this is what I see anyway. Women are far more forgiving in the looks dept than men...i'm not even sure why that point is even up for debate
I think it's one more reason for them to point blame at women for them lacking in the romance department, although I don't understand the reasoning there either.
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