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I agree with you although I'm sure there are some instances where this isn't true.
But women claim they arent as visual as men and could be attracted to a guy who isnt the hottest but they became attracted to after time?
Im glad a womens honest here and admits women are only attracted to very good looking men but willl settle for average men to raise a family if they have to
But women claim they arent as visual as men and could be attracted to a guy who isnt the hottest but they became attracted to after time?
Some can.
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Im glad a womens honest here and admits women are only attracted to very good looking men but willl settle for average men to raise a family if they have to
I haven't read the entire thread but I wanted to comment.
I know several men who didn't find the "love of their lives" until they were 50 years old.
In each case they got married and told others that these were "the happiest years of their lives".
Everyone just assumed (including themselves) that they would be bachelors until they died but they proved everyone wrong.
So, whether you are 30, 45 or 65 there is still time left to find love.
PS At least one of the men probably was a virgin when he got married at age 50. I know that he had never really dated very much until he met the woman that he married.
I havent read the thread but, lets face it, at 31 you are reaaaaally old, approaching death and undesirable. No point in searching for love. No one wants to date someone THAT old. You better just crawl in bed and await death to come. It wont be long!
As the title suggests. 31, never had a girl friend, still a virgin.
My height (5"4) and looks probably go against me but I wouldn't say I'm completely ugly - say below average. If personality/confidence is the most important trait its maybe fair to say I'm lacking in self confidence/self-esteem but I'm not a nervous bumbling idiot. Everyone who knows me says I'm not shy and fairly outgoing. It's difficult to be super confident when you have a past with no success. I signed up for online dating yesterday - got friends to vet my profile etc.......messaged 9 women so far, 7 haven't replied.....26 have viewed my profile......nothing.
I definitly can't do anything about my height, nor much about my looks if thats the problem so I've always figured its my confidence and personality I need to work on. I'm even seeing a therapist who practises CBT to try and change any negative thinking or limiting beliefs I have. I've read up on trying to be playful/funny/cheeky/flirting etc as well.
By my counting I've asked out/fancied 38 women in my life time......they've all said no. I've only ever successfully initiated a kiss with 3 women ever, the other times its always been the women.
Millions of men meet up/hook up with women every single day - I have a friend whos slept with over 40 women, another whos had about 12 girl friends...but me, 31 and nothing? Why am I so different? I really don't believe I'm that un-desirable.....but I'm beginning to wonder. There are some tings in life people will never do - be a professional sports player, get that job they wanted, have kids......is it also true to say that plenty of people will just live live forever single? Do a google search and you'll find plenty of stuff on men in their 50's & 60's totally single.
Its crazy how uncommon this is to the point its almost laughable. Should I just give up & accept it? Anyone got any ideas or experience with/met anyone similar who's turned this around?
Your choice of a screen name is the 1st clue something is wrong.
Bruno Mars?! It doesn't get anymore questionable than that Filipino...
I like the idea of the strip club. If he has never been, he needs to do a lot of research and read reviews online to avoid the scammer/ghetto clubs that will set him up for a robbery, charge too much on his credit card when he tries to get drinks, or something else sinister. However, if he has frequented these clubs in the past then he needs to start going by himself.
He doesn't want to go with his buddies who do well with women as they will make a spectacle of him in front of the women and the entire club. He just needs to start throwing some ones around and build that confidence.
A lot of people have hang ups and he doesn't need constant rejection if certain women smell blood in the water. The only thing he can do is continue to get his money right and build confidence. The women will come after that.
It's time to sink or swim, you can talk about it for days but all you have to do is dive in...swim!
No, the world doesn't work that way. You don't always find someone. About 20% of men never get married by 40. A lot of black women never get married. 5% of 40 year olds are virgins.
Rejection is not bad, but if it is not working out then you got to change the circumstances. If OP eventually find someone, then he will be too dependent on that woman because finding someone else is so hard. This can lead to bad habits, such as being needy and that will increase the chance of break up. To find a suitable life partner you need to have options.
Hence, changing environment may be exactly what OP needs. It can boost his confidence, give him some sexual experience and possibly a life partner.
73% of African American children are born out of wedlock so that makes sense.
As the title suggests. 31, never had a girl friend, still a virgin.
My height (5"4) and looks probably go against me but I wouldn't say I'm completely ugly - say below average. If personality/confidence is the most important trait its maybe fair to say I'm lacking in self confidence/self-esteem but I'm not a nervous bumbling idiot. Everyone who knows me says I'm not shy and fairly outgoing. It's difficult to be super confident when you have a past with no success. I signed up for online dating yesterday - got friends to vet my profile etc.......messaged 9 women so far, 7 haven't replied.....26 have viewed my profile......nothing.
I definitly can't do anything about my height, nor much about my looks if thats the problem so I've always figured its my confidence and personality I need to work on. I'm even seeing a therapist who practises CBT to try and change any negative thinking or limiting beliefs I have. I've read up on trying to be playful/funny/cheeky/flirting etc as well.
By my counting I've asked out/fancied 38 women in my life time......they've all said no. I've only ever successfully initiated a kiss with 3 women ever, the other times its always been the women.
Millions of men meet up/hook up with women every single day - I have a friend whos slept with over 40 women, another whos had about 12 girl friends...but me, 31 and nothing? Why am I so different? I really don't believe I'm that un-desirable.....but I'm beginning to wonder. There are some tings in life people will never do - be a professional sports player, get that job they wanted, have kids......is it also true to say that plenty of people will just live live forever single? Do a google search and you'll find plenty of stuff on men in their 50's & 60's totally single.
Its crazy how uncommon this is to the point its almost laughable. Should I just give up & accept it? Anyone got any ideas or experience with/met anyone similar who's turned this around?
If you want to give up then give up otherwise don't but continueing to post all your female woes on a public forum is not going to fix them. Seeking a qualified therapist is probably going to be the best way for you to get through this self destruction path you have been walking.
Whenever I am reminded of this it just makes me sick at heart
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