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It depends. I'm a New Yorker myself and dating can be so,so. Not only how much it costs, but what your date likes or what mutually. Also one has to put effort in dating like clothing, loosening weight, hygiene especially dental and other exterior credentials, and that's for the guys. Dating in NYC is hard. If you want to date in NYC either have lots of money or be a good looking bum which plenty of women in this city actually date and have relationships with. I know quite a few guys who are really, really good looking and have nothing going for themselves but women like them, buy them xbox or a plane ticket to DR for vacation. One thing about NYC that amazes me is the women, either if she unattractive or fat yet they still pull men left and right and these men are physically attractive. If an average plain jane or below woman is fat or ugly and tired of Florida, Cali and other sunbelt man shallow nuances, look no further and move to NYC, you will get dates really fast.
We sure do. If a guy spends more than a 100 dollars or more wining and dining a woman, a good chance he wont get anywhere. Some women here use dates as a meal ticket especially heaveily indebted college educated women who move to the city from some suburb down south or the Midwest right after college. There are plenty of cheap dating ideas in NYC that can be fun and instead of the boring dinner date or to a movie.
I want an attractive woman who like to hike a couple hours in the pine barrens and chomp a hoagie afterwards during a crisp fall weekend. Not expensive, and enjoyable too .
With regards to looks, most people simply want someone who is sexually attractive to them. I don't see guys going for the top 1%. It's more like the top 10%, and you can't blame them, because they're not sexually attracted to the bottom 90%. It's the same way for women. I can't blame women for not wanting to date me or anyone else in the bottom 90%. I fully expect women to continue and try for the top percentile of males until they get one or are forced to settle with someone like me. That's completely logical.
I find it interesting how you state hyperbolic statements as fact. And yet, at 25, you've never been with a woman. But you know these concepts to be absolute truth. How does one become so knowledgeable with little to no practical experience?
I find it interesting how you state hyperbolic statements as fact. And yet, at 25, you've never been with a woman. But you know these concepts to be absolute truth. How does one become so knowledgeable with little to no practical experience?
I couldn't rep you, but this ^^^ post made my day.
you are hijacking the thread. but I take the true love of course.
"I take the true love"
Do you still believe that such an animal exists? Personaly, I believe it does, but the odds are 1000:1 or more of finding that unicorn.
"I take the true love"
Do you still believe that such an animal exists? Personaly, I believe it does, but the odds are 1000:1 or more of finding that unicorn.
THe questions wasn't whether to be able to find that person or not. It was the choose either one ..
Would you rather have professional/financial success, but with no one to love- and love you back? Or, would you rather have true love with no possibility of professional/financial success? Your decision is final and cannot be remedied at anytime in the future.
I can't live in poverty if that's what lack of financial success means. I'm already living out the first option anyway (some degree of financial success/no true romantic love), so I'll just stick with that.
Would you rather have professional/financial success, but with no one to love- and love you back? Or, would you rather have true love with no possibility of professional/financial success? Your decision is final and cannot be remedied at anytime in the future.
I have professional success and a ton of people who love me very much - just no romantic partner. If that's the rest of my life, I'm fine with it. My friends are kind of awesome.
I have professional success and a ton of people who love me very much - just no romantic partner. If that's the rest of my life, I'm fine with it. My friends are kind of awesome.
yes.That's a healthy attitude. Every time I go out I see tons of couples in their 30's, most of them with little children, and they always look so stressed out, unhappy and grumpy.
I think many people just settle and start a family because society tells us that this is, what "normal" people do. But later they figure out, that this kind of life doesn't make them happy, especially women who quit their job and end up as a housewife tend to be really frustrated at some point. Happiness comes from within.
Let's face it...some of us have flaws that prevent us from being in a healthy monogamous relationship with another person we desire.
I have been giving this some thought lately. Now at 35, sometimes I do wonder "if it's me". Now, on one hand, I totally believe that not everyone will find someone. It's just life. And luck. It ain't gonna happen for everyone. But on the other hand, I think I'm fairly attractive...independent...pretty easy to get along with...good-hearted...yada yada yada...so I think I 'should' have someone. And I remain patient. But sometimes I start to thinking...maybe I'm not putting myself out there enough, or maybe I'm too shy, or too picky, or this or that.
Has anyone here ever come to a conclusion of something they were doing wrong in the dating game/game of love and adjusted something about yourself as a result? Or even more interestingly, have you been told by someone/other people some thing or things you needed to change?
I have figured out why I am alone. However, there are certain things that are not worth changing.
Edit: I mean, not necessary to change. They are actually good qualities, but some people can't handle them.
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