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Please...cut the semantics...here is your last "go" at online dating...you do this a couple times a year while protesting madly to cd-ers so please don't be so disingenuous (obtuse...dumb...you pick) now when it is predicted that you'll fall back to it:
1- Text him good morning and have a good day, first thing on the morning. Shouldn't the men be the ones to initiate communication? I have no interest being the man.
And you apparently do wanna be "the man" because you said you wanted to be the leader and call the shots. So why can't you pick up a phone and call your man? That's one of them.
The leader gets things done. And that's what you said you wanted to be. You seem to want a man who's alpha to everyone and everything, but makes you the exception as his queen, whom he obeys.
You aren't gonna find that.
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2- He wants me to dress up in sexy clothes, wear make up etc. I forget what nonsense be said, but my response was love me the way I am, or be gone. I am happy with me the way I dress.
Doesn't sound like you're doing any compromising still. What's the harm of just wearing some lingerie now and again. Don't have to wear it all the time. But it's something. That's a compromise.
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3- Anytime I get on my phone he thinks I am talking to another man. He was wrestling me for my phone so he could search it. I ended up hitting his face in the struggle and now he is whining his eye hurts.
Nice. Only 2 months of dating, and physical fighting has started. I hope your kids don't see this behavior from their mother and her (most recent) boyfriend.
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The good thing is I know what I won't put up with and I am emotionally healthy enough to eject them from my life.
So are you still dating this guy then? Because if so, you're still putting up with him, despite the fact he seems to annoy the hell out of you, and things have progressed to the 2 of you having to wrestle each other.
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So are you still dating this guy then? Because if so, you're still putting up with him, despite the fact he seems to annoy the hell out of you, and things have progressed to the 2 of you having to wrestle each other.
Get with the program, Vanilla, the dishes still need to be done, the lawn has to be mowed, the kids looked after, etc.
And you apparently do wanna be "the man" because you said you wanted to be the leader and call the shots. So why can't you pick up a phone and call your man? That's one of them.
The leader gets things done. And that's what you said you wanted to be. You seem to want a man who's alpha to everyone and everything, but makes you the exception as his queen, whom he obeys.
You aren't gonna find that.
Doesn't sound like you're doing any compromising still. What's the harm of just wearing some lingerie now and again. Don't have to wear it all the time. But it's something. That's a compromise.
Nice. Only 2 months of dating, and physical fighting has started. I hope your kids don't see this behavior from their mother and her (most recent) boyfriend.
So are you still dating this guy then? Because if so, you're still putting up with him, despite the fact he seems to annoy the hell out of you, and things have progressed to the 2 of you having to wrestle each other.
You are determined to blame me for everything. You really think it is not an issue when a man thinks it is ok to go through a woman's phone?
Get with the program, Vanilla, the dishes still need to be done, the lawn has to be mowed, the kids looked after, etc.
I have a friend that would come help me mow and do yard work. I can handle everything else just as I have always done. It just sucks never being able to count on someone being part of my team.
You are determined to blame me for everything. You really think it is my an issue when a man thinks it is ok to go through a woman's phone?
I said nothing about your phone. I don't blame you for everything. But you certainly are not innocent in your troubles. Your lack of boundaries causes trust issues. But it is his fault if he's this paranoid and still sticking around. He should have been gone a month ago. But if he's still around, you can always drop him. So both of you are responsible for putting up with each other. Either of you is free to call things off if it's that bad.
To be blunt, this guy has issues. But so do you. And that is why you attract these messed up guys. As many have said before, not just me. Only dysfunction men are going to put up with you, and all the extra crap. The decent ones with real options, will be gone soon.
Most, if not all, women attract some duds, and bad guys now and again. And most if not all have dated some bad guys. But if bad guys are all you have ever gotten and dated, and they leave as soon as they're doing well, then you also have problems.
But you seem to think people pointing out some flaws you have are picking on you or being mean, then you get a defensive attitude. And continue to think you are perfectly normal and perfect and everyone else is the one with the problem, and it couldn't possibly be you that has some issue.
I am not picking on you. I am just stating an opinion going off of what you post on here.
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I hope your kids don't see this behavior from their mother and her (most recent) boyfriend.
