Would it be wrong to ask a girl I was mean to in HS out? (date, marry)

[49ersfan27]

Originally Posted by JerZ

How have you changed? You judged her worth on her looks then and you're judging her worth on her looks now. Be honest with yourself. If she still had acne and wore baggy clothes but you appeared to have similar interests, would you be eager to ask her out?

I mean you can try. I personally have never met a person who was that much of a jerk - literally calling a person ugly to his/her face (maybe if it had happened at age five with zero maturity or consciousness of hurt feelings but by high school? Come on) - who didn't grow up to be still a jerk, but a better disguised one. I mean there's stupid teen stuff and accidental cruelty, but this was deliberate and you know it had to be amazingly hurtful and knew it then, unless you were unconscious. But maybe it does happen and you have had some sort of epiphany. If so, sure, give it a whirl. I feel like she will probably simply not reply but who knows?

I have dealt with his type before when I was younger, they never change, and you never forget how big of an ass they were.

[sheerbliss]

Originally Posted by Strogonoff

So I found a girl via FB that I knew from HS. Thing is I wasn't really nice to her and kind of a jerk back then even calling her ugly. She had a bad acme problem and used to dress with very baggy clothes and was pretty shy. It has been 8 years since graduating and I am not like that anymore. And I must say, she has gotten VERY attractive. Like night and day difference.

Looking at her interests and such we have a lot in common and live very close. Would it be wrong to ask her out?

If she says yes, you're apt to get a drink dumped on your head.

[MurrayMoe10]

Were you sorry about how you treated her before or after you realized the ugly duckling had turned into a swan?

[RbccL]

She might be dysfunctional and likes being treated like crap. A lot of the guys here say that's what women are really looking for anyway, maybe it won't matter if you've changed or not. But hey...what if you were mean and ugly back then, and just didn't know it? She may not have even noticed you were mean.
Go for it!😉

[49erfan916]

Didn't the talk show host, Jenny Jones, did geek to sheek shows where the girls were geeks, and 10 years later, became hot?

[The Dissenter]

Originally Posted by 49erfan916

Didn't the talk show host, Jenny Jones, did geek to sheek shows where the girls were geeks, and 10 years later, became hot?

I think that was Maury.

OP, go for it, she will probably say no but you never know.

[old_cold]

The reception or rejection you get is pretty much going to be based on what you say to her, I would think.
It had better be good

[funymann]

Originally Posted by 49ersfan27

I have dealt with his type before when I was younger, they never change, and you never forget how big of an ass they were.

Go something like....

"Hey, this is ...... From High School!"

"Who?"

"..... From High School."

"The guy from ..... Class in High School .... ?"

"Yeah! It's me! How are you?"

*CLICK*

*mmmmmmm*

"Hello?"

[funymann]

Shoulda loved me for my inners.

[Raptor76]

Ask her. I have personally seen it go both ways. Both girls were not the prettiest in high school and got picked on a lot, but when they became adults, they both became beautiful women. One of them is married to a guy who picked on her all the time in class. She said she really thought he was cute and had a crush on him, so when he asked her out, she was ecstatic and things just blossomed from there I guess. And the other one just gave a big F U to everyone at our class reunion, if you were mean to her then, she had no love for you now, and she let it be known. So go ahead and ask her, you never know she may be wanting you to.