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I didn't say it was right, I only say this is something that could happen since men notice good looking women more than non good looking women. No more no less.
I never said my reaction was justified just the way I felt. No more no less.
But you are saying that we should all understand that this is just something that can happen.
Is that how you feel about your high school experiences? Those were just things that can happen in high school?
That's what I'm saying and what you're not understanding. If the answer is "no," then you have no place telling the rest of us that this is simply "something that can happen." That minimizes the experience and we both know it.
If your answer is "yes, kids picking on me is just something that can happen," then okay.
I'm the same way to the girls who picked on me and called me ugly. One of them said she was going to be my prom date and then showed up with another guy claiming it was a joke! I saw her and she spoke to me but I ignored and avoided her. I'll never forgive those who wronged me.
Oh, God, that's terrible. There's no excuse. That's not "kids being kids" or "kids being stupid." Just no excuse...ugh, I feel kicked in the gut just reading that.
it would be funny if he got fat and ugly now. I see a lot of former male classmates on Facebook... let's just say time has not been on their side.
Right! -- and if they still live in the same small town where it was the status of their parents or their athletic ability that made them attractive...that just does weird things to their perception of themselves so that they will always be the big fish in the pond.
True. I was just immediately brought back to a really awful looking guy who would have to make the time to say things to me in HS. Can't remember if I saw him as ugly bc of his face or personality. Either way, I think it's easier to grow out of the physical ugly than an ugly personality. She's probably 'way out of his league' by now.
In my experience, like yours, it was the people with the worst situations somehow that lashed out at others. Like your example, the only times I EVER recall anyone calling anyone else ugly in school, it was a very, very unfortunate-looking person. Other people who bullied were generally very miserable in some obvious way.
I agree. Also, let me add: If you contact her (even if it was just for a date), you're just gonna remind her of a lot of bad memories from her past.
So, like 49ersfan27 said, PLEASE leave her alone. Nobody likes re-living painful memories.
This thread itself brings back how awful high school was. People were cruel as hell and I am so happy I never have to see them again. I could less if they're not even living anymore.
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But you are saying that we should all understand that this is just something that can happen.
Is that how you feel about your high school experiences? Those were just things that can happen in high school?
That's what I'm saying and what you're not understanding. If the answer is "no," then you have no place telling the rest of us that this is simply "something that can happen." That minimizes the experience and we both know it.
If your answer is "yes, kids picking on me is just something that can happen," then okay.
Look, I'm not trying to justify OPs actions in HS. I'm only saying he is attracted to his victim for a reason. That is all.
I sense your sarcasm and I'm not in the mood. Take it elsewhere.
No, it actually made sense.
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I saw her and she spoke to me but I ignored and avoided her. I'll never forgive those who wronged me.
