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We waited 7 years before marrying. We only got married for practical reasons, such as health insurance. There have been no negative surprises - we knew each other very well, and that connection and compatibility has been sustained.
That said, a long dating period helps ensure that you really know a person and that the things you value in a relationship can be sustained with that person (often, sex declines after 18 months to 2 years, as the initial hormonal rush wears off; what remains after is usually the real baseline you can expect). I always advocate dating a year before living together, then living together for at least a year before deciding to marry, and then having a long engagement - at least a year.
Dating coach advises men to date girlfriend 5-10 years before getting married
LOL. No. I didn't watch the link but I read other post said the coach said let the woman wait? LOL. ok, that's not gonna work for me. Ugh, those that are not married are wasting their time reading books and videos of the 'rules' of relationship or marriage. Mighty glad, I am not a follower in general. I make my own rules. You do you.
Those rule book and videos are for the weak and clueless in life.
Dating coach advises men to date girlfriend 5-10 years before getting married
LOL. No. I didn't watch the link but I read other post said the coach said let the woman wait? LOL. ok, that's not gonna work for me. Ugh, those that are not married are wasting their time reading books and videos of the 'rules' of relationship or marriage. Mighty glad, I am not a follower in general. I make my own rules. You do you.
Those rule book and videos are for the weak and clueless in life.
Not even a gf/bf commitment this dating coach advises. Men should just "date" women (no commitment) for a min of 5 years, preferably 10 years before making them their gf, Lol.
Its equivalent to a woman telling a guy no sex until marriage, and that the guy has to wait a min of 5-10 years. Lol. Yeah, thats just not going to happen for 99% of men.
Like I said, this coach is either clueless about relationships or is purposely giving bad advise.
Not even a gf/bf commitment this dating coach advises. Men should just "date" women (no commitment) for a min of 5 years, preferably 10 years before making them their gf, Lol.
Its equivalent to a woman telling a guy no sex until marriage, and that the guy has to wait a min of 5-10 years. Lol. Yeah, thats just not going to happen for 99% of men.
Like I said, this coach is either clueless about relationships or is purposely giving bad advise.
Definitely agree on the "equivalence" thing. This purposely giving bad advice but really just to guys who have no intention of ever getting married anyway because they don't like, respect, or trust women. Just guys getting to hear what they want to so they can feel good about their "choices".
Great advice in your early 20's, horrible in your 30's-40's. Depends on your age. I don't want to date a woman longer than a year before being able to make a decision.
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Great advice in your early 20's, horrible in your 30's-40's. Depends on your age. I don't want to date a woman longer than a year before being able to make a decision.
Also depends if you want kids or not. Since I don't want kids, I can have a long vetting process and not lose anything.
That is ridiculous. Although there are many things you need to know about a person before marrying them, it doesn’t take 5 years. I’d give a man two years, tops. Then he better either marry me, or I’m outta here.
My husband and I knew each other for 7 months before we got married, and that was 38 years ago. You better believe that in those 7 months, I knew all his family dynamics, had met all his friends, and I knew his character and values.
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