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This. It's all about being at the same stage of life, with similar energy levels, interests, goals, and outlooks. Most guys 15 years older than I are already retired, while I have no interest in retiring at my age. It wouldn't work for either of us.
That actually worked for me! I married for the second time when I was 50 and DH was 65. We moved halfway across the country for my job and he retired. He was in advertising so you can imagine how dim his job prospects would have been. He was a very supportive stay-at-home husband, taking all the domestic stuff off my back (except the finances- I'm a control freak about that). He was also an amazing stepfather to DS. He died 2 years ago- an outcome I expected given the age difference and his chronic health issues- but it was a wonderful marriage.
I had 2 dating relationships when I was younger with much-older guys- a 34-year old when I was 21 and a 45-year old when I was 25. I don't think I was looking for a Daddy (my own is still alive and we have a good relationship) and I sure didn't need someone to pay my way and buy me stuff- I can do that on my own. I think I was just more mature for my age and more compatible with guys who had some history.
I'm 66 now and current BF is about to turn 68. I'm not messing with much-older guys at this age!
That actually worked for me! I married for the second time when I was 50 and DH was 65. We moved halfway across the country for my job and he retired. He was in advertising so you can imagine how dim his job prospects would have been. He was a very supportive stay-at-home husband, taking all the domestic stuff off my back (except the finances- I'm a control freak about that). He was also an amazing stepfather to DS. He died 2 years ago- an outcome I expected given the age difference and his chronic health issues- but it was a wonderful marriage.
I had 2 dating relationships when I was younger with much-older guys- a 34-year old when I was 21 and a 45-year old when I was 25. I don't think I was looking for a Daddy (my own is still alive and we have a good relationship) and I sure didn't need someone to pay my way and buy me stuff- I can do that on my own. I think I was just more mature for my age and more compatible with guys who had some history.
I'm 66 now and current BF is about to turn 68. I'm not messing with much-older guys at this age!
I love to hear about happy marriages! I'm sorry you lost your husband.
But you bring up another important point: we all get older, and a much older spouse gets even older. If we all dated older men, we'd eventually be hitting up the assisted living facilities to find someone.
But you bring up another important point: we all get older, and a much older spouse gets even older. If we all dated older men, we'd eventually be hitting up the assisted living facilities to find someone.
That'd be cool. Some of those places are pretty luxurious lol.
Ugh you could've left the part about the infidelities and disrespecting boundaries out of it......we would've gotten your point.
What is funny is many American Women love French culture with the exception of the Polyamorous sentiment in the country.
The concept of fidelity and marriage being for love and not business is VERY new, along with the concept of dating and marrying your own age...A couple of thousand years ago it was EXPECTED for a Woman to marry a Man 20 years her Senior....And it was expected for that Man to have multiple wives and provide for them all. (when it was economically feasible of course)
Now people think they can distance themselves from tens of thousands of years of hunter gatherer habits. Sorry biology doesn't work that way. Try again 10,000 years from now
What is funny is many American Women love French culture with the exception of the Polyamorous sentiment in the country.
The concept of fidelity and marriage being for love and not business is VERY new, along with the concept of dating and marrying your own age...A couple of thousand years ago it was EXPECTED for a Woman to marry a Man 20 years her Senior....And it was expected for that Man to have multiple wives and provide for them all. (when it was economically feasible of course)
Now people think they can distance themselves from tens of thousands of years of hunter gatherer habits. Sorry biology doesn't work that way. Try again 10,000 years from now
I see. Well, if biology "works" that way, how many wives half your age do you have? Somehow, I'm getting the impression that "biology" isn't cooperating for you.
And, if "biology" says that I should be with a man 20 years my senior, why do I have no interest in men 20 years my senior? I must be an aberration of nature.
When just dating to have fun I've done 10 years younger, and it was fun, but I never was 100% comfortable with it.
For others? Go for it.
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What is funny is many American Women love French culture with the exception of the Polyamorous sentiment in the country.
Vous avez raison Tencent, Auraliea may have been right about my post # 54, perhaps my confessed infidelities weren’t necessary to get my point across, my bad.
However, my Gallic blood compels me to defend my apparent offence of ignoring boundaries.
I have never crossed the line and hit on a married woman, I have had one or two married women over the years who’ve made no secret of the fact that that they’d be open to an approach, but I’ve bitten my lip and turned away.
However, an engagement ring is just a very strong indication that marriage is contemplated.
When I met the woman who is now my wife, she was engaged, if her intended was the man for her, she’d have told me to get lost when I suggested dinner or drinks.
She didn’t, she gave me her number, and said, “Give me time to think about it.”
I remember my dad, when I was around 13, I was crazy about a girl in school, he said, “She’ll say maybe, but she means keep asking, don’t push too hard, take it easy, talk to her in French, she’ll love it, and you will win eventually.”
What is funny is many American Women love French culture with the exception of the Polyamorous sentiment in the country.
The concept of fidelity and marriage being for love and not business is VERY new, along with the concept of dating and marrying your own age...A couple of thousand years ago it was EXPECTED for a Woman to marry a Man 20 years her Senior....And it was expected for that Man to have multiple wives and provide for them all. (when it was economically feasible of course)
Now people think they can distance themselves from tens of thousands of years of hunter gatherer habits. Sorry biology doesn't work that way. Try again 10,000 years from now
Not having much luck with women eh? Aww, sorry to see that.
What are you even babbling about this time? People like you crack me up, trying to tell others how they feel while making inaccurate sweeping generalizations. It's even more hilarious when they try to bring biology into it as if they are an expert. It's kind of pathetic really. This is 2019, not the 19th century or 2000 BC, time to wake up and get with the program.
All you did was give a great example of the naturalistic fallacy. Nice try though.
Run along and play with your cavemen dolls now.
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Originally Posted by Jean-Francois
Vous avez raison Tencent, Auraliea may have been right about my post # 54, perhaps my confessed infidelities weren’t necessary to get my point across, my bad.
However, my Gallic blood compels me to defend my apparent offence of ignoring boundaries.
I have never crossed the line and hit on a married woman, I have had one or two married women over the years who’ve made no secret of the fact that that they’d be open to an approach, but I’ve bitten my lip and turned away.
However, an engagement ring is just a very strong indication that marriage is contemplated.
When I met the woman who is now my wife, she was engaged, if her intended was the man for her, she’d have told me to get lost when I suggested dinner or drinks.
She didn’t, she gave me her number, and said, “Give me time to think about it.”
I remember my dad, when I was around 13, I was crazy about a girl in school, he said, “She’ll say maybe, but she means keep asking, don’t push too hard, take it easy, talk to her in French, she’ll love it, and you will win eventually.”
Yeah yeah, I don't care anything about that, or your reasons. To be quite frank.
I just hope you'd keep/kept that same energy if/when someone felt the need to move in on someone you love.
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you could've left the part about the infidelities and disrespecting boundaries out of it......we would've gotten your point.
