My mom's friend is intimate with her husband once a day is this normal?? (girls, kids)
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I have two younger brothers. 11 and 13.
Can I ask you a question? This may seem really dumb, but do people who do IVF ever do it because they don't want to have sex? I know that the main reason is due to infertility + other similar problems but do they ever do it because they just don't want to have sex? I'm just wondering.
I don't know what I am. I don't think I have a low sex drive though. But I'm not sure how to tell. I can never talk with my mom about these things it's way way way too uncomfortable I just can't.
Also, this is unrelated but I sometimes get weird when people touch me. Not weird but it makes me uncomfortable and I don't know why even when someone just sits next to me but close enough for our arms/legs to touch I hate that I always move away. Also when someone touches my hand. I don't mind hugs though. And nothing happened either, I didn't have a traumatic experience when I was younger or anything it's just... how I am it's very worrying.
Are you thinking of Artificial insemination (AI), not InVitro Fertilization (IVF)?
this is the stereotype you always hear about, comedians are always making jokes about guys that can't get any after marriage, and I don't get it, bcuz I've had the opposite problem - of course just dating, not married, but it seems like the guy can't wait to and keeps saying you're so hot and everything and how much they love it, but after a while it seems like I'm the one more interested, so I don't get it. I'm guessing they didn't really like me, even though they seemed to, but thought I was hot which is why they seemed so excited at first. Idk, but that's one thing that makes me not want to date.
I agree with this. Sure, most guys want and "would like" to have sex every day. But that is MENTAL. Do they want to do much of anything to get it? Lots would not - it's easier to play video games or watch p0rn than to have to do something as exhausting and time consuming as foreplay to get sex. I'm kind of joking here, but not completely. Some guys talk a good game but if they had a woman who was really wanting it every day, there'd be a lot that just couldn't keep up in reality!
But guys are kind of expected to complain to other guys about their woman not putting out, etc. - it's a bonding thing, I think.
i was just wondering. we talked about IVF in school some time ago and I always wondered if people ever do it because they don’t want to have sex but still want kids
You have to keep in mind that from my experience as a male every third thought involves sex. It seems like the subject is just over the shoulder all the time, under all circumstances. This is totally my perspective though.
Intimacy varies widely from couple to couple and person to person. In my last marriage we were always very busy and my ex once said that when it comes to this subject we were feast or famine. Long periods of nothing then intense intimacy. A few times we would go on a weeklong vacation wanting to see things but not come out of the hotel room for 3 days straight. Family matters, work matters and the demands of life in general can make quality time hard to find. We dealt with it pretty good and intimacy is not just for special occasions, sometimes it's when expedients allow. That includes her taking liberties at 3 in the morning when i'm trying to catch up on rest.
There's definitely no set pattern amongst us. What ever works works.
But, would you have been okay with it if she told you she didn’t want to have sex with you often? I feel like sex drive subsides with age, I remember reading something about that in relation to menopause? I don’t know why but I just feel like after getting married, I would be uncomfortable having sex often. Especially after having kids what if they overheard? I don’t know. I also am weird when it comes to intimacy.
AI puts sperm into the woman without the man actually present; this is done in sperm banks.
IVF requires the removal of eggs from the woman, fertilizes them in a petri dish, and re-inserts them into the woman. Costs about 20K
That’s really expensive wow. What if it doesn’t work? Would you have to pay another 20 thousand? I was just wondering, maybe married couples who don’t want to have sex do this. Since it doesn’t require sex. Just being rich apparently lol
I agree with this. Sure, most guys want and "would like" to have sex every day. But that is MENTAL. Do they want to do much of anything to get it? Lots would not - it's easier to play video games or watch p0rn than to have to do something as exhausting and time consuming as foreplay to get sex. I'm kind of joking here, but not completely. Some guys talk a good game but if they had a woman who was really wanting it every day, there'd be a lot that just couldn't keep up in reality!
But guys are kind of expected to complain to other guys about their woman not putting out, etc. - it's a bonding thing, I think.
so then you agree that every day IS too much. I told my mom the same thing it sounds exhausting doing it every day. But she was all like “it can be a 20 minute thing before you go to bed”.
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That’s really expensive wow. What if it doesn’t work? Would you have to pay another 20 thousand? I was just wondering, maybe married couples who don’t want to have sex do this. Since it doesn’t require sex. Just being rich apparently lol
I don't think a doctor would perform this surgery just because a married couple doesn't want to have sex.
It involves minor surgery.
And yes, if it doesn't work, you go back and try it again although often the process will fertilize many embryos at one time and freeze them.
AI costs virtually nothing, and is done for women who don't want a male partner. I would be surprised if there are many male/female couples who go this route just because one refused to have sex.
But who knows, maybe.
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Idk, but that's one thing that makes me not want to date.
