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Yeah, that's what I wanted to know, thank you! I agree! And I think enjoying sporty or cultural activities together is way more normal because if an entire marriage revolves around physical intimacy then I feel like that's unhealthy and can lead to major problems. What my mom said just really worried me because it in part made me feel like it's all guys care about. Which would suck.
True intimacy isn't ONLY physical, it also touches on mental, emotional and spiritual aspects, all at the same time. You've clearly never had intimacy at its absolute best. I have, and there is no experience like it that can compare. You have to have been through it to really understand.
But guys are kind of expected to complain to other guys about their woman not putting out, etc. - it's a bonding thing, I think.
since you mentioned that, combined with all the guys saying that they LOVE it and NEED it and WANT it ALL THE TIME, knowing that some, when given the opportunity, have proven that not to be the case, makes me wonder...if all these guys saying they cheated bc they weren't getting any at home, but they love her and don't wanna leave her , makes me wonder if that's really true, or if they're just exaggerating (as they often do) trying to justify it or make others feel bad for them. like maybe he is "getting it", but she's just not very adventurous or doesn't wanna act like a porn star or whatever he's into...or maybe he's not that good, or she just got tired of it, that seems the most reasonable explanation as it seems bound to get a bit boring after several years.
That really sucks what if I really like someone but they want to do that every night. Also, I understand that some people have sex frequently but when they're married with kids? It just seems so bizarre to me and isn't something I would want to do at that stage in my life. When I'm dating? Yeah, not every day but I mean definitely more than when I'm married with kids. It also kind of bothers me how my mom used the importance of sex in a relationship as an excuse for cheating.
I can guarantee you that if you carry what you are saying here into a marriage you WILL wind up getting cheated on, because your husband will find a side woman who is into him enough that she'll be ready able and willing any time he is. Either that, or he will make it official and leave.
since you mentioned that, combined with all the guys saying that they LOVE it and NEED it and WANT it ALL THE TIME, knowing that some, when given the opportunity, have proven that not to be the case, makes me wonder...if all these guys saying they cheated bc they weren't getting any at home, but they love her and don't wanna leave her , makes me wonder if that's really true, or if they're just exaggerating (as they often do) trying to justify it or make others feel bad for them. like maybe he is "getting it", but she's just not very adventurous or doesn't wanna act like a porn star or whatever he's into...or maybe he's not that good, or she just got tired of it, that seems the most reasonable explanation as it seems bound to get a bit boring after several years.
My moms friend whose husband cheated on her told her that he thinks he “helped” her by cheating on her because he thinks he made her realize how she needs to work on herself so she can satisfy him more and look appealing to him again. absolutely gross. and she isn’t divorcing him either, she wants to stay with him.
I was so grossed out by this because it completely ruined the picture I had of marriage. I thought intimacy was something really special and something kept for special occasions, not something people do every single day.
Where the hell did you get that idea? lol
I've actually been celibate by choice for a few years, but when I'm in love with someone and around them, I want sex every day usually. Sometimes multiple times a day.
I've actually been celibate by choice for a few years, but when I'm in love with someone and around them, I want sex every day usually. Sometimes multiple times a day.
I get that. But would you really want to do that after marriage and kids and years of marriage. and would you want to kind of be expected to it because men are men.
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