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what is scary is a cougar for me would have to be like 80
LOL mathjak
I never heard the phrase cougar until recently so I just now looked it up. Here's the definition
“Cougars” are popularly defined as women in their 40s (or older) who date significantly younger men, generally at a 10-year age gap or more. Pop culture paints the cougar as predatory and pathetically desperate, but women have recently begun fighting the stereotype: real cougars, they argue, are confident, successful, single women over the age of 40, who — tired of unromantic and narrow-minded men their own age — date younger, more active and more adventurous men.[1][2] This article offers tips on identifying and attracting a “cougar” — also (and preferably) known as, an older woman.
I think some of these posts are mixing up younger women who have the opportunity to travel, to decide whether or not to have kids, have good jobs, etc. with retired women in their 60s and 70s.
My ex bailed when we were in our late 50s. (Viet Nam vet who crashed mentally when his parents died. Death=Viet Nam to him.) Previous to marrying him, I'd had many years of working, living alone, dating. Some people do great at living alone; I didn't.
After he left, I knew I wanted to find a nice man for companionship, mutual affection, and hopefully, marriage or at least living together. Being a home body, I wanted someone with me when I was at home. The quality of the men out there was disappointing. Men with bad tempers (run--fast!), bossy men (run--fast!), men who thought they could have a harem of women just because they had a lot of money (run--fast!)
Current husband is pretty good. Being divorced, he is mostly house broken, lol. But his previous wife must have waited on him hand and foot. She never worked a day in her life either! Sometimes it's a struggle getting him to share the work but he does know how to cook dinner. He also makes his own breakfast and lunch. He goes grocery shopping if I make the list. He has some sense of fair play.
Still, as a woman, I seem to bear the brunt of the responsibility. I have to make the lists, do the planning, make the decisions. He does't understand that always being the responsible one can be a drag.
I'm still working on getting him to participate in the decision making. I ask him what he thinks instead of just making lists by myself. If there's work to be done around the house, I try to get HIM to look around and figure it out. (Besides, if I ask him to do something, I become a "nag.")
It sounds like these ongoing conflicts are something that many older women are trying to avoid. The fights just to get a man to pitch in and do his share. Or, worse, the older men who expect their wives to wait on them. I don't consider older men irrelevant. But some of them are insensitive to human needs and still treat women as objects instead of human beings.
we can never win . when i was in my 20's the big thing was hey guys i was with this 35 year old last night and it was wild .
now it is like hey guys i was with this 20 year old last night and ........
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9pm?? Wow...you party animal you 
My wife and I visit Las Vegas, and are rarely out after 10pm.........
