Should the wealthy family members help support poor working class brothers and sisters? (cousins, business)
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If I could be well off enough myself to help my family out it would not be a question that I'd have to post on a message forum. It is just the ''right thing'' to do.
I have been without, through no fault of my own, and it is a very stressful and unpleasant way to live.
And no, family and friends bringing in a very good monthly salary never offered to help and we never asked.
They knew what we were going through and never offered a dime for food or gas or rent.
I have three brothers and all three of them are broke all the time. #1 brother spends money before he makes it. He always has to have the latest and greatest of everything. He got a full ride scholarship because my parents were broke. He didn't get the grades to keep it..They paid another year and he did it again. Our family lived on pancakes, and almost no meat so he could go to that school. He got pulled out. Now he is 44 still no degree, working teaching music for pennies and still spending money. Brother #2. He has mental health issues. He got married and his wife spent every penny before he made it. SHE knew he has mental health issues before they got married. She took his money and left town. No one knows where she is. He is living in a halfway house. I DO send him money sometimes fully knowning that I will never see it again and he will spend it on cigarettes. Also need to get him a trac-phone so I can at least call him. He went to college and graduated. Working at sears spends all his money cigarettes. Brother #3. He went to college completed all of it..but becuase he didn't follow through with a class he didn't get his degree. He is still working at Best Buy making peanuts and whines about making no money.
Other than my brother #2 neither of them I will give a penny for so many reasons. They both threw the educations they were given away for various reasons. Neither of them will suck it up and finish school. Brother #3 just needs to go to the registar's and get a form filled out. I busted my butt in my career, put myself through college and am frugal. No one thought that I was going to graduate from college because I wasn't "smart" enough..yet I graduated with honors from both a undergrad and grad. My parent's didn't give me a penny for it.
Yes I sound mean but none of them deserve the fact that I work all the time and save.
I have three brothers and all three of them are broke all the time. #1 brother spends money before he makes it. He always has to have the latest and greatest of everything. He got a full ride scholarship because my parents were broke. He didn't get the grades to keep it..They paid another year and he did it again. Our family lived on pancakes, and almost no meat so he could go to that school. He got pulled out. Now he is 44 still no degree, working teaching music for pennies and still spending money. Brother #2. He has mental health issues. He got married and his wife spent every penny before he made it. SHE knew he has mental health issues before they got married. She took his money and left town. No one knows where she is. He is living in a halfway house. I DO send him money sometimes fully knowning that I will never see it again and he will spend it on cigarettes. Also need to get him a trac-phone so I can at least call him. He went to college and graduated. Working at sears spends all his money cigarettes. Brother #3. He went to college completed all of it..but becuase he didn't follow through with a class he didn't get his degree. He is still working at Best Buy making peanuts and whines about making no money.
Other than my brother #2 neither of them I will give a penny for so many reasons. They both threw the educations they were given away for various reasons. Neither of them will suck it up and finish school. Brother #3 just needs to go to the registar's and get a form filled out. I busted my butt in my career, put myself through college and am frugal. No one thought that I was going to graduate from college because I wasn't "smart" enough..yet I graduated with honors from both a undergrad and grad. My parent's didn't give me a penny for it.
Yes I sound mean but none of them deserve the fact that I work all the time and save.
No, you don't sound mean. You sound like someone that, when Life teaches you a lesson, you retain the lesson and let it help you do better. Brothers could have done exactly the same, if they had chosen to do so. We live in a country of so-called adults with arrested emotional development stuck somewhere before ages 12 and 14. "Gimme, Gimme, Gimme." and, "I should be able to screw over whoever the h**ll I want, do what I want...with NO personal consequences coming back at me"
I have a long time friend who seems to think everyone owes her something and since they have money should send her some. She's always in dire straights moneywise, even now at 73 years of age. Once an Aunt of hers sent her $1500 to help her get a car but she didn't say how much she appreciated it, only that it was barely enough to do anything with! I told her, geeze, I don't know any family/friends who would send me their hard earned money!
I'm retired and living on Soc Sec and my 3 children all have good incomes but I would never expect them to try and make
it easier for me. It's their money, they earned it!
Maybe when it's birthday/Christmas time those relatives who have more can share their wealth at those times. It should not be expected.
I have three brothers and all three of them are broke all the time. #1 brother spends money before he makes it. He always has to have the latest and greatest of everything. He got a full ride scholarship because my parents were broke. He didn't get the grades to keep it..They paid another year and he did it again. Our family lived on pancakes, and almost no meat so he could go to that school. He got pulled out. Now he is 44 still no degree, working teaching music for pennies and still spending money. Brother #2. He has mental health issues. He got married and his wife spent every penny before he made it. SHE knew he has mental health issues before they got married. She took his money and left town. No one knows where she is. He is living in a halfway house. I DO send him money sometimes fully knowning that I will never see it again and he will spend it on cigarettes. Also need to get him a trac-phone so I can at least call him. He went to college and graduated. Working at sears spends all his money cigarettes. Brother #3. He went to college completed all of it..but becuase he didn't follow through with a class he didn't get his degree. He is still working at Best Buy making peanuts and whines about making no money.
Other than my brother #2 neither of them I will give a penny for so many reasons. They both threw the educations they were given away for various reasons. Neither of them will suck it up and finish school. Brother #3 just needs to go to the registar's and get a form filled out. I busted my butt in my career, put myself through college and am frugal. No one thought that I was going to graduate from college because I wasn't "smart" enough..yet I graduated with honors from both a undergrad and grad. My parent's didn't give me a penny for it.
Yes I sound mean but none of them deserve the fact that I work all the time and save.
You don't sound mean at all. I can't stand people like that who don't try at life.
Interesting replies so far but let me clarify my question:
My brothers and sisters think we should share out wealth and basically send them a supplemental income based on the fact that we are doing so well and they are not.
While we are not millionaires, should the hard working but working class low paid brother and sister live a life of struggle if their brother or sister was wealthy? Or should the wealthy sister help support financially their poor brothers and sisters because they are family? (I am not talking about a full support but if the working class brothers and sisters are working full time and just getting by, should the rich family member send them a regular check because they are family?)
If you found out one of Bill Gates's brothers or sisters were living near the poverty line but working full time, would you think less of Bill Gates?
If you did well with investments why not help them with investments, like match their savings dollar for dollar or something like that, help them that way? Are you sharing your insights with them or just looking down at them?
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