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As we get older our bodies no longer do what we want them to do. I want to climb mountains, hike, be out in the sun, etc,but life before 50 has taken a serious toll on my body, not to mention auto immune disease. It's not that we don't want to, sometimes we can't.
I am living proof of this. When I first became disabled to the point that I was no longer ambulatory, we were living in a second floor apartment. Going up and down that flight of stairs was excruciating, so I rarely left the apartment. I kept myself busy with reading, crafts, cooking, online games, etc.
We moved to another state, and now live in a house. I get out a lot more but there are still times my body is just not up to it. I do "sit around" because I am in a wheelchair, but I am rarely doing nothing. Because my mother and my grandmother both began their decline into dementia when they were not much older than I am now, I do everything I can to keep my mind sharp, and I am always learning new things.
Growing old is hard, and everyone handles it differently. Who knows why your dad just sits around doing nothing, maybe that's just his way of dealing with his changing reality. In any case, it is his life and he has earned the right to live it however he wishes whether or not you agree with it.
I disagree, as I used to be a get up and go type of person, always doing something, rushing around, yada, yada.....worked very hard, extremely physical in my work and play...like riding horses, working construction, bailing hay
I've suddenly learned that it's so energizing, just to sit and do nothing...and love it....there is an amazing peace, and quiet to it....self soothing, and detoxes my whole being...it's called relaxation...and so glad I found it....
So in the later years of life, now, I'm suffering, with joint pain...and can no longer do much...in the way of physical work...
I do miss being active....but have learned to accept it....
I think you have a right to be concerned for your father.
Does he have an iPad or tablet? There's tons of games that are great for the brain and you can also download books. My grandparents love theirs. I think even if physically someone can't keep active, keeping the brain active is important.
But does he seem happy and in good spirits? Or does him seem just lost or sad?
Try lunch or something once a week to get him out of the house. Does he enjoy watching sports? You could go to a sports game together.
POST didn’t come across as concerned but more judgemtantal . It’s not like the op is claiming the fathers habits are New either.
My father is like this. Always been like this, now that he’s retired, it’s even worse. He just sits around the house, maybe watching a bit of t.v. or playing around with his smartphone. I’d be bored outta of my mind just sitting around and just daydreaming to pass time. I don’t understand how someone not realize there’s more to life than just sitting around everyday
Why are you so judgemental???is he happy?? Then leave him be. Geez!
You might consider that this is the first signs of depression or dementia. My dad was this way about 5 years before we started seeing dementia symptoms. Some of it was that he was losing his speaking ability and forgetting recent things.
Why does someone need to be depressed just because they are content being at home? Another nasty person like OP
OP, I think you have enough problems and shortcomings of your own that you should be focusing on. Like, getting a job? Moving out and supporting yourself?
My father is like this. Always been like this, now that he’s retired, it’s even worse. He just sits around the house, maybe watching a bit of t.v. or playing around with his smartphone. I’d be bored outta of my mind just sitting around and just daydreaming to pass time. I don’t understand how someone not realize there’s more to life than just sitting around everyday
My step father is retired military, doesn’t do jack squat all day. Eats, gets fat, watches sports and tv shows, has diabetes, plays fantasy football, etc.
I would not want a retirement like that but it’s his choice and he has earned the right to lay around the house and be a slob. Its probably why I haven’t seen him in years
My father is like this. Always been like this, now that he’s retired, it’s even worse. He just sits around the house, maybe watching a bit of t.v. or playing around with his smartphone. I’d be bored outta of my mind just sitting around and just daydreaming to pass time. I don’t understand how someone not realize there’s more to life than just sitting around everyday
So your dad annoys you because he is doing nothing and your mom annoys you because she is doing too much and complains about it.
Seems like it is time for you to move out.
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