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Vicki, I'm so sorry about the loss of your daddy. : ( Please accept my deepest sympathies. Cathy and I havent given up on our dream of moving to NC. We may be in the area in May or June at the conclusion of my temporary assignment.
I know it is difficult and costly to move back home, but life is short. (I say this because my daddy passed away a month ago and I understand this even more).
I agree with you, to a point. However, bashing the area isn't going to get you sympathy.
I DO feel sad for anyone that is homesick. My mom moved to NC from NY and was homesick for YEARS! I remember hearing about it ALL THE TIME!
She moved to FL and lived there for 15 years and then got tired of that and moved back to NC. Now, all the kids and grandkids are here and she loves it.
What changed? Not the area!
So, I can understand someone not being happy, living here. I feel for that person. However, I doubt that person will get much sympathy by bashing the area.
I know it is difficult and costly to move back home, but life is short. (I say this because my daddy passed away a month ago and I understand this even more). If you are that unhappy living here and you are homesick, do what you have to do to move back home. You gave this a try and it didn't work out...for you. But it isn't the area, it IS you. Maybe the sooner you realize that, the sooner you can "fix" that.
Best of luck to you.
Vicki
Well put and I agree. And some ppl do get homesick and sometimes where you relocate to just was not for you and there is nothing wrong with that.
Many years ago my husband, children and I moved to Florida. I hated it every waking moment and made my husband absolutely miserable until he took me back home to NY.
We now have a home in Wake Forest and I am newly retired. I realize that the issue with Florida was me, not the state.
Unless you really work at making it work and getting involved in your community it just does not happen. I was very very home sick... We have a very small condo in NY and our primary residence in NC. I am really going to try to make it work in NC, search out what is to see everywhere and get involved this time. I want to embrace NC and not want to change anything.
But, I won't let go of my little place in NY, I just need to hold on to her NY hand until I feel safe...... silly isn't it?
Not every place is right fore everyone. My wife and I are moving in about a month. I will miss the surprise nice weather days like yesterday and some of the more understanding posters here, but that is about it.
The area never "clicked" with me. I can honestly say this has been the worst 3 years of my life.
If planning on moving here:
* spent more than a few days exploring the area before before deciding to
move here. (big adjustment if you are from a larger metopolitan area)
* Do "hands on research" about the cost of living and prevailant wages.
(Don't trust the online calculators)
*Don't believe that the area is 'recession proof'.
* Don't underestimated how hard it is going to be leaving family and friends and to make all new business contacts
I write this not to bash the area but give my opinion to people considering moving here.
I could't agree with you more ! If I can only figure out where to move back to, after living in Ft. Lauderdale almost 30 yrs. and being born and raised in NYC ????
Many years ago my husband, children and I moved to Florida. I hated it every waking moment and made my husband absolutely miserable until he took me back home to NY.
We now have a home in Wake Forest and I am newly retired. I realize that the issue with Florida was me, not the state.
Unless you really work at making it work and getting involved in your community it just does not happen. I was very very home sick... We have a very small condo in NY and our primary residence in NC. I am really going to try to make it work in NC, search out what is to see everywhere and get involved this time. I want to embrace NC and not want to change anything.
But, I won't let go of my little place in NY, I just need to hold on to her NY hand until I feel safe...... silly isn't it?
No, not silly at all, NY will always be home to me, no matter how it's changed "There is no place like home" even if it's only in one's heart !
I don't mean to be bashing! But to say I shouldn't come on the boards because I have something negative to say is just silly, and a bit questionable coming from a realtor.
The whole triangle is lovely, and I really like it for my family. It is a quality place to live. I have friends, I get out, my children are involved, (one happy, one not).
BUT, there is nothing wrong with me because I have some issues with the place. Stop trying to twist it back onto people that are not happy.
Thank you.
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I don't mean to be bashing! But to say I shouldn't come on the boards because I have something negative to say is just silly, and a bit questionable coming from a realtor.
The whole triangle is lovely, and I really like it for my family. It is a quality place to live. I have friends, I get out, my children are involved, (one happy, one not).
BUT, there is nothing wrong with me because I have some issues with the place. Stop trying to twist it back onto people that are not happy.
Thank you.
I don't recall EVER saying that you shouldn't come on the boards. What I DID say was that I was sorry you were so unhappy. But...and I'll say it again...bashing the area that others live in isn't going to get you any new friends! And I don't get what that has to do with being a Realtor.
Actually, since this is where I've lived since I was 3 years old and it suits me and many others just fine, I have come to the conclusion that folks that think the AREA is the reason for their unhappiness, won't be happy anywhere.
Perhaps since you misunderstand what I had written, you are misunderstanding others and that is why you are having issues getting along here.
Vicki
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I am not unhappy because I have issues with the area! I am actually a very happy person, always have been. No sympathy needed. And I have friends, so please stop talking to me like a loser.
You don't think you have an interest in cheerleading for this place, being a realtor?
Again, I don't have "issues" getting along here.
You are bashing me in response to my comments on the area. This is pretty immature, actually. Many others are able to be objective in their opinions of an area irregardless of their situation.
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I have come to the conclusion that folks that think the AREA is the reason for their unhappiness, won't be happy anywhere. 
