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That will never happen because I have a great dislike for yogurt.Godiva chocolates eaten while sitting in my Master's lap while he is studying is where it is at.
Wait, you get chocolate?
Oh man, I have seriously go to do some renegotiating.
I am a good writer. Heck, I made one career with it. So it amazes me that people do not see the words that are written.
You are a great writer!! I absolutely love your posts NYAnnie.
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I NEVER gloss over the sexual element but you'd find MY sex life rather boring - aside from the fact that we are extremely active at our old age. He doesn't humiliate me; although I humiliate others - but I don't have sex with them. Oh heck, they may get off on it, but I don't. Some people find wearing a dog collar highly sexual. I find it...boring - kids do it all the time and want attention for it no less!
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So long as each follows their own stated needs/wants/limits, and their kink is not foisted upon the vanilla community any more than you put your sex-life out on display (you see, that would be non-consensual)
Where did the term vanilla come from? I hate vanilla.
It fits this discussion. What the couple is doing is not about their relationship - it is about PLAY time.
My completely vanilla mother-in-law and step-father-in-law have been married about 25 years. First time I ever met them, they were coming through town on their way south (typical snowbirds). So they bring in their overnight bags and are settling in, and apparently forgot something in the car. MIL says to SFIL, "go back out and get the _______." SFIL stands up, begins moving to the door sort of hunched over, dragging one foot behind him a la Igor... "yesssss massstteeerrrr...."
When one of them does something extra special for the other, the recipient will say something like, "Hmmm...I think I'll keep you for another week... and tomorrow you can spend 4 hours out of your cage."
Now my kinkdar is about as finely tuned as my gaydar, so I'm rather confident these two aren't in any sort of definable D/s relationship... they are, however, still very much in love... and these little things are expressions of that. Play. Their relationship doesn't HAVE an authority transfer dynamic, there's no negotiated power exchange... neither of them is "the master" and I am certain neither sleeps in a cage. So it's not an aspect of the relationship, it's just play. Something they do, an action, to express the loving relationship dynamic in a way that makes them both smile.
Of course my relationship sounds 50ish - I believe that Ozzie and Harriet and The Cleavers were from that era. In fact, someone might even be able to find a reference to those TV shows in my posts. So what's the surprise?
I've decided I'd rather be compared to Gomez and Morticia from now on. I thought they were the coolest couple ever growing up. LOL
You are a great writer!! I absolutely love your posts NYAnnie.
Where did the term vanilla come from? I hate vanilla.
So do I. Does everyone have to be categorized as one thing or the other? Can't some of us be Neopolitan, or if we feel a certain way on a certain day, Butter Pecan?
I've decided I'd rather be compared to Gomez and Morticia from now on. I thought they were the coolest couple ever growing up. LOL
Hahahaha, me too. As a matter of fact, as I grow older my goal is to be the really tall (already have that down) old lady dressed in black who lives with her cats and scares the neighborhood children.
I think I've gotten an idea for a personal ad: "Morticia seeking her Gomez. Must have crashing train set."
Where did the term vanilla come from? I hate vanilla.
I'm not sure who actually coined the term or why, but I suspect the reasoning behind it is that "vanilla" is considered to be the base flavor in something like ice cream, and you build on that. So a basic... "normal" (meaning mainstream approved) relationship is vanilla. Add a little whipped cream and a few crunchy bits and you're well on your way towards Rocky Road. LOL
I think using it to denote the difference between kink and not-kink has become more of a habit than anything. I don't actually find "vanilla" to be particularly accurate, as I believe each and every relationship has its own unique and special flavor created by those in it. But it is the term most widely understood, so it gets used the most.
I think I've gotten an idea for a personal ad: "Morticia seeking her Gomez. Must have crashing train set."
You forgot "brother who can double as a lamp during blackouts required."
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