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Meh...You don't get it. We've obviously reached the point where we just don't respect each others' opinions, about anything, in the least. This forum is simply too massive, to read every post. I must only read the ones of people I either respect, or would find interesting in some way. This no longer meets either definition.
I don't know why you had to choose the absolutely most obscene example possible, and build a straw man around it, but you did. I also found it absolutely bizarre that you didn't bother to address K95she's (sp?) concerns. That is what people have the problem with.
I know you mean Vanilla as a derogatory term, but I absolutely love it. I'll be that.
I can't wait for these threads to die back down and go back under the bed. Almost makes me long for the days of the women bashers comments.
P.S.--Congratulations on becoming omniscient. You know exactly where I live and who I know.
Trust me when I tell you that there are more obscene examples.
Vanilla is NOT a derogatory term.Vanilla is a common and basic flavor which we use to refer to those who prefer less kinky things.It sounds alot better than calling someones relationship 'average' or 'normal' because no one can really define what is normal or average and to make a statement like that would probably get people up in arms.People do not like being referred to as normal or average and they certainly don't like their relationships being referred to in that manner which is why we use the term vanilla.We mean no harm.
Frankly, your relationship doesn't sound "out there" enough to even qualify you for being in a club or group of any sort. .... but it just doesn't sound all that unusual.
As I and others have said, we just hope that when she's no longer young and new, or if she no longer finds it exciting, that he doesn't "punish" her for no longer wanting to play. To the extent she's tellling the truth about her lifestyle, she sounds very vulnerable and I think most posters on here are hoping that she keeps both her eyes and her options open as her relationship progresses.
One last note before I trot....
You're right, my relationship doesn't appear that unusual - it has a lot of unusual aspects to it but the main relationship runs like a good solid relationship.
However, our play with others is quite different from yours - we don't have cocktail parties, and the beer consumed at our BBQs is less than a 12 pack over the entire summer.
Maria is young but not so vulnerable as you might think. I don't think she is as isolated as many of you believe her to be and hopefully she/they will find some more experienced lifestyle folks to befriend.
Learn to use the friggin' multi quote. Obnoxious!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It is my thread and I will post in any way that I see fit.Is it really such a big deal?There are alot of other things you could worry about besides how I post.
You're right, my relationship doesn't appear that unusual - it has a lot of unusual aspects to it but the main relationship runs like a good solid relationship.
However, our play with others is quite different from yours - we don't have cocktail parties, and the beer consumed at our BBQs is less than a 12 pack over the entire summer.
I don't see how this is different from vanilla relationships??? BBQs, get togethers, or wedding receptions without alcohol is not unusual out side of the BDSM community.
Maria is young but not so vulnerable as you might think. I don't think she is as isolated as many of you believe her to be and hopefully she/they will find some more experienced lifestyle folks to befriend.
And now I've really run out my time.
I don't agree, even though she enjoys being by herself and seems to be a homebody. With agoraphobia and if her sole female relationship should ever fall through, she may end up feeling isolated.
maria..sorry to post in third person as though you're not here, I'm only being honest about my concerns.
I don't agree, even though she enjoys being by herself and seems to be a homebody. With agoraphobia and if her sole female relationship should ever fall through, she may end up feeling isolated.
maria..sorry to post in third person as though you're not here, I'm only being honest about my concerns.
I still maintain relationships with my family and other people in my kind of community and at church ect.I can understand your concern and I appreciate it.However I assure you there is nothing to worry about.If things were to get out of hand I have an exit plan in place that is there for me whenever I need it.
I still maintain relationships with my family and other people in my kind of community and at church ect.I can understand your concern and I appreciate it.However I assure you there is nothing to worry about.If things were to get out of hand I have an exit plan in place that is there for me whenever I need it.
An "exit plan"??? That does sound like you are truly a slave planning your escape. How sad.
An "exit plan"??? That does sound like you are truly a slave planning your escape. How sad.
Everyone who is in this kind of relationship should have one in place that is agreed upon beforehand incase things do not work out.You can't fault me for being too careful and I think you can see by my other posts that I have no intention of leaving.
I still maintain relationships with my family and other people in my kind of community and at church ect.I can understand your concern and I appreciate it.However I assure you there is nothing to worry about.If things were to get out of hand I have an exit plan in place that is there for me whenever I need it.
Okay....I had a very isolating relationship at one time, and family who were unsupportive when I needed them, so your post is reassuring.
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