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Imagine if a man said," She expects me to take out the trash and do household maintenance and those 'husband things'."
Well, there are men who have no clue about household maintenance and they really don’t have to. In this case, though, they better be able to afford the professionals for it!
I don't quite understand the big hoopla on this thread... You'd think some women don't need to clean their places or eat when they're alone..
I think the objection is to the implication that housework is women's work, not just stuff that needs to get done when you're a grown up. There is a certain sense of satisfaction looking a a pile of clean laundry or a freshly tidied room, but that doesn't have anything to do with gender. I felt the same way yesterday after working in the yard (which I am apparently not supposed to do because I am a fine lady.)
I sadly heard a beautiful gal at church today say she is getting divorced.
"He expects me to cook and clean and do those wife things"
She just might be a victim of Bravo's Real Housewife's franchise. The women in those reality shows are just editing-room cutouts who mingle with humans.
Someone needs to tell that beautiful gal that life isn't a soap opera.
I don't quite understand the big hoopla on this thread... You'd think some women don't need to clean their places or eat when they're alone...
Applying that logic, the reverse is true: Men who live alone have to do that for themselves, don't they? So why stop when they get married?
Bottom line is I don't have to clean whiskers out of the sink, pee off the toilet rim (can you tell that my wasband had bad aim?), someone else's laundry, in short someone else's mess. I also don't come home to a wrecked house after I've spent time cleaning it. Likewise, if I want a bowl of Lucky Charms for dinner, I don't have anyone up in my face pizzing, moaning, and whining about how he wants a "REAL MEAL." Right. Talk to the hand, pal.
I am very, very careful about cooking dinner for my guy. Once in a while, if I feel like cooking in general (meaning I'd do it for myself, anyway) I'll do it, but I've found that he, like every single flippin' man I've ever known in my 43 years on this planet, then comes to expect it--which is why I'm currently in boycott mode right now. I told him my cooking is done for the season and to check back after the Equinox. He knows that if he wants a woman who is going to cook, he is free to go find someone else, because that is just not me. Never has been, never will be. I don't try to change him, he shouldn't try to change me, and fortunately, he doesn't.
As for cleaning, he has his house, I have my apartment, it works. Heck, I know married people like that, with his and hers houses.
I think the objection is to the implication that housework is women's work, not just stuff that needs to get done when you're a grown up.
You know, I've gotten worked up over division of housework sometimes myself. It's funny how everything is a matter of perspective and many times we don't see the forest for the trees. It seems like a big deal when you're married, but then almost all of this work (and the rest is the stuff you just may not do when you're alone) is all yours when you get divorced, plus all the manly stuff you either have to find a way of doing, or pay quite a bit of money to have somebody else do it for you.
Applying that logic, the reverse is true: Men who live alone have to do that for themselves, don't they? So why stop when they get married?
Bottom line is I don't have to clean whiskers out of the sink, pee off the toilet rim (can you tell that my wasband had bad aim?), someone else's laundry, in short someone else's mess. I also don't come home to a wrecked house after I've spent time cleaning it. Likewise, if I want a bowl of Lucky Charms for dinner, I don't have anyone up in my face pizzing, moaning, and whining about how he wants a "REAL MEAL." Right. Talk to the hand, pal.
I am very, very careful about cooking dinner for my guy. Once in a while, if I feel like cooking in general (meaning I'd do it for myself, anyway) I'll do it, but I've found that he, like every single flippin' man I've ever known in my 43 years on this planet, then comes to expect it--which is why I'm currently in boycott mode right now. I told him my cooking is done for the season and to check back after the Equinox. He knows that if he wants a woman who is going to cook, he is free to go find someone else, because that is just not me. Never has been, never will be. I don't try to change him, he shouldn't try to change me, and fortunately, he doesn't.
As for cleaning, he has his house, I have my apartment, it works. Heck, I know married people like that, with his and hers houses.
whatever you wont do another women will...so keep that attitude and I hope it works for you.
I think the objection is to the implication that housework is women's work, not just stuff that needs to get done when you're a grown up. There is a certain sense of satisfaction looking a a pile of clean laundry or a freshly tidied room, but that doesn't have anything to do with gender. I felt the same way yesterday after working in the yard (which I am apparently not supposed to do because I am a fine lady.)
Heh, likewise, there is a certain blinding rage that comes from looking at a formerly tidied room that someone has cavalierly come home and trashed with his clutter, the mud on the bottom of his shoes, and his inability to hang a jacket in a closet.
Okay, I have work to do and this thread is aggravating me entirely too much. I need to step away, make some money, and avoid a stroke.
whatever you wont do another women will...so keep that attitude and I hope it works for you.
Ah, yes, the implied threat of another woman "stealing your man."
Please. I wouldn't want a man who expects that kind of indentured servitude from a woman. If a man wants that, as Spinx put it so well, he's a pig. Other women can have the pigs of this world. I've got better things to do. I'm not that desperate for a man's company.
Heh, likewise, there is a certain blinding rage that comes from looking at a formerly tidied room that someone has cavalierly come home and trashed with his clutter, the mud on the bottom of his shoes, and his inability to hang a jacket in a closet.
Of course, had it been seeds thrown by the birds, it'd be fine, Avienne, wouldn't it?!
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Okay, I have work to do and this thread is aggravating me entirely too much. I need to step away, make some money, and avoid a stroke.
You gals know I adore you.
Please, don't crock on me now! You know I love ya, too!
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