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I was talking about "ignorance is bliss" type of happy-go-lucky.
Where ignorance is bliss, it is folly to be wise.
Think about it - up to a certain point of evolution, ignorance IS bliss. Out of sight, out of mind. Knowledge is a terrible burden, a dangerous distraction, and often leads to pride and arrogance.
I am 30 years old and have no children. I don’t think I ever want children, or to own a home, because I would rather do without the responsibility of either. I like shopping sprees and being able to go on holidays whenever I please.
I have a very cushy job which includes massages every week and requires next to no really hard work.
I find that others often make me feel guilty for the life I lead. They make me feel lazy, irresponsible and immature because I have not chosen the same 2 kids, big house, mortgage, years in college to work a 12 hour a day job, that they have.
They tell me there “comes a time, when you have to settle down”.
Oh…?
I'd like to be introduced to whoever is making these rules for my life.
Is this just jealousy?
I haven't read the rest of the thread, but if that's what you want then go for it, I don't blame you one bit!
As far as the people making you feel guilty, I'd wager that it's a mix of jealousy, insecurity, and just pure confusion. Some people can't understand why someone wouldn't want the "2 kids, big house, mortgage, years in college to work a 12 hour a day job, that they have" and react negatively. As long as you can take care of yourself and be happy, I say go for it.
I am 30 years old and have no children. I don’t think I ever want children, or to own a home, because I would rather do without the responsibility of either. I like shopping sprees and being able to go on holidays whenever I please.
I have a very cushy job which includes massages every week and requires next to no really hard work.
I find that others often make me feel guilty for the life I lead. They make me feel lazy, irresponsible and immature because I have not chosen the same 2 kids, big house, mortgage, years in college to work a 12 hour a day job, that they have.
They tell me there “comes a time, when you have to settle down”.
Oh…?
I'd like to be introduced to whoever is making these rules for my life.
Is this just jealousy?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with continuing as you are if that is what makes you happy. You do not have to have kids or own a house. You can always change your mind if you want to even if you are old. There are always houses for sale and kids to adopt or foster. Do not feel pressured by anyone because only you know what is best for you.
This is the attitude that I just don't have a lot of respect for: valuing shopping/vacationing/indulgence above other things. I am sorry if you don't like what I said...but you asked for opinions and I gave mine.
I don't mean to insert myself, but I think I sort of see where both of you are coming from. I understand what you mean in that the totally irresponsible self-centered lifestyle is not appealing. However, I did not read her original post that way. Can I take off for a vacation tomorrow (or next week)? Sure. Can I run off to the mall and drop some cash? Absolutely. There's nothing really stopping me from doing any of those things, and I love that. However, that doesn't mean that I don't have responsibilities or live my life based upon indulgence. The pure reality is that things will always come ahead of myself (such as family, friends, at times I realize that do have to work). Really, in the end, it's the freedom to do anything I want that's so appealing. That doesn't mean that I don't care about anyone besides myself, it's just that I have more options than someone with children or even a husband.
Not that kids and a husband are a bad thing. Everyone is different, and it also depends on your stage in life. At some point I'd love to have kids, but right now I'd rather go to happy hour, and maybe Peru.
Well, the secret to happiness in life is not caring what other people think of you. Knock yourself out.
One of the best sayings I have ever heard is “Be who you want to be, not who they want to see”.
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The rest from down under don't seem to manage.
