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How true is that statement. I realize most women hate it when a man cries unless they are really in love with him.
I don't think that's true. I respect a man who can show his emotions. On the other hand, if you are a man who can turn the tears off and on for effect to get attention, after a while I'm going to want to whack you upside the head with a baseball bat, but that's just me. I was married to one of those. He knew how to work tears to get other people to feel sorry for him or see him as a nice guy, which he wasn't. In that respect, I married Mom.
To me, its a turn on when a man cries because its rare to see a man in that state. If I'm already attracted to him or dating, it just makes me want to make him feel better (ie:jump his bones )
If its a guy friend, I try to console them. But if it was a man or a woman, I can't stand when people just cry on and on and on, feeling sorry for themselves.
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How true is that statement. I realize most women hate it when a man cries unless they are really in love with him.
If your woman gets mad at you when you cry about something big like losing a loved one or getting laid off or fired, you don't need to be with her anyway. Women, it's your choice; would you rather have a man who just got laid off from his job after many years cry buckets or hit the first thing within distance to let his hopeless come out?
Real men cry whenever they feel like it and they don't care who is around. What kind of man sits at his mother's funeral and doesn't cry because they're thinking, "Oh no! I'm not masculine! People will think less of me."
WRONG. Everyone will think less of you if you don't show intense emotion.
If people think less of those who choose to be the rock when everyone else is crying themselves a river, then they can go to hell. Someone has to be strong for everyone else. A strong person knows how to keep it together, even though the show of emotion. Being strong isn't about breaking down when everyone else is wallowing in their tears. Like the old saying goes, only the strong survive.
My husband cried when his grandfather died, and I've seen the men in my family get a little watery over similar situations.
But when a man cries over something I consider unimportant, I don't like it. Same with women. Crying is a personal experience, not for sharing with strangers. It makes me uncomfortable, just as if I watched a person puke down the front of himself.
I could care less if a man cries or not. What I care about is honesty and being yourself. I've seen many men cry and it's never been a turn off or made me angry. It's never made me think less of them or think they are soft. Being "strong" is about being strong enough to be who you are - whoever that may be.
If people think less of those who choose to be the rock when everyone else is crying themselves a river, then they can go to hell. Someone has to be strong for everyone else. A strong person knows how to keep it together, even though the show of emotion. Being strong isn't about breaking down when everyone else is wallowing in their tears. Like the old saying goes, only the strong survive.
And thank you for, in a way, validating the point I made about the day of my Dad's funeral...top wit, I held it together all the week leading up to the funeral, because my Mom was wavering, and I knew she needed me---it was that simple...but that night, after the funeral was over, as I said in my other post, I lost it...the weight of the loss of my Dad, all the things I wouldn't be able to say to him---it all closed in on me, and I lost it...
Same as with my Mom...when we got news form the hospice that she had passed, my sister and brothers were there...I kept it up for a few minutes, but again, it happened...my family is small, and kinda close-knit, and this was Mom, man...she was the glue, the buffer between us and Dad, the one who brought you here...once again, all that came down like thunder, and we were all in the kitchen, weeping and comforting each other...
You are absolutely correct on this---that there's nothing wrong with being 'the rock', because in the midst of chaos, there has to be stability, true that...but I don't see anything wrong with 'the rock' emoting in private, or in certain situations, in public...we're all wired a little differently, I guess, and we all show our emotions in different ways...
How true is that statement. I realize most women hate it when a man cries unless they are really in love with him.
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