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The "stoic" male thing is really more an American thing... there are plenty of cultures where crying wouldn't be that unmasculine.
I would suggest that anybody that thinks crying is a sign of weakness has an ideal of strength that isn't rooted in reality. Somebody that never shows emotion invariably is doing self-destructive things like hitting the bottle or melting down. Human beings can't escape the pain and ennui of existence, wheather they are male or female.
totally depends on what is making a man cry.
obviously if he chipped a nail and started bawling there might be something loose in his head, but crying over something meaningful is a natural response
Crying is rarely masculine, and no matter what women tell you, its not an appealing behavior for a guy. I think that perhaps there are occasions when its excusable, but its rare.
The "stoic" male thing is really more an American thing... there are plenty of cultures where crying wouldn't be that unmasculine.
I have found American men far more in touch with their feelings than New Zealand men or even Australian men. The whole stoic tough guy mentality is far more prevalent in those countries, especially with Maori and Polynesian males.
I do not have a problem with a man crying as long as it isn't a lot. I think it is nice when a man can let his guard down and cry now and then, but I don't want a guy that cries at the drop of a hat.
Yeah, crying. Wow. Men are not supposed to cry. Interesting.
I've cried my share of tears in my life, most of it was while I was alone (as in nobody else around to not respect me or think that I was not a man because I was crying) and some of those tears where the result of me momentarily looking back on different and isolated events in my life that I had buried far away for a long time.
I cried when they surfaced because I have a heart and a soul.
I read a quote a while ago that said "Tears are not a sign of weakness but are the result of someone being strong for too long."
So yeah, men cry and it is often those that were strong for too long and at some point their body needs to release everything that has built up inside them.
As for a woman seeing me cry. Twice. Once was satan's pawn when it was over and I had caught her cheating and she stopped by my house to asses the damage and try to see if she could still keep me on hold as back-up when she was done with the new guy and yeah, I cried, but I cried because I am human and was in a brief moment of pain, and whether or not she lost any respect for me was irrelevant since a woman that lies, manipulates and cheats is incapable of having respect for anyone else since she lacks the ability to even respect herself.
And then there was the second time that I cried (like a total loser that a woman should not respect). I had spent over ten years apart from a woman that I was with long before the era of Facebook and Myspace and when she tracked me down, it was back on again and after a few phone calls, she came over to my house late one night and we had not seen each other (or been physically intimate) in over a decade and alot of emotions were built up and I shed some tears once she was back in my arms. Doubt that she didn't respect that since we spent the next three days trapped in my bedroom surviving off a case of bottled water, a few Zone Bars and having the most intense sex in the history of mankind.
I used to have a BF who I could make cry simply by starting to talk about his deceased dog or mentioning abused children. Worked. every. single. time.
I used to do it as a party trick and he would get so mad!
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