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Yes I am single and very happy. I enjoy spending my time by myself. To be honest, all I need is someone to "tune me up with hot,rough and steamy sex" and I'm good to go.
I have female friends that I can go out with and that's fine with me. But no girlfriends or wives!
I've been single for about 2 years now and am currently loving it. I have plenty of time and freedom to spend on the things I really want to do, like advance my career and achieve my fitness goals. I'm 24, male, and a grad student, which eats up most of my time, and I'm currently training for a marathon, hunting for a job (out of state), and trying to plan a huge trip for next summer. A relationship would get in the way of everything I've spent the last few years working so hard for by potentially tying me down to a specific place, and taking away time that I would otherwise spend on school or working out.
Right now I'm concentrated on getting my career really started and finding a new city to live in, and after I settle down and get my life the way I want it, maybe I'll be interested in someone. That is much, much more important to me than having someone else. I have plenty of friends and a close relationship with my family so I'm not lonely. There are of course times I'd like to have someone, but many more times I enjoy the amount of freedom I have in my life. I have tried dating a few people in the past year, and even tried online dating, all with poor luck, which makes me not want a relationship even more. I don't need someone to be happy, but I do want to be as happy, content, and settled in my life as possible before I really think about wanting someone else.
Every guy I fall in love with who dumps me tells me the same thing. I'm great, I'm beautiful, I'm smart, I'm funny, I'm the most normal person they've ever dated, I treat them better than anyone ever has, I'm such a great catch that they're sure some guy will snatch me up before I know what hit me. Yeah, right! At 40, I think there must be some great flaw that none of my ex-boyfriends will admit to me. I've been dumped for a depressed woman on Prozac, a psychotic secretary (at his office), a gold-digging tramp who hates kids (my ex-fiance had two awesome kids and his now-wife doesn't care about them), and dumped for nobody, just so he could escape the fear of commitment .
I don't get it. I'm not controlling, but I'm also not needy. I'm not picking out china patterns after three dates, I don't even call every day (unless it's what he wants), I do nice things for my boyfriends but nothing over the top, I'm buying a house in my a new city, and keeping my current house (dumped on me by the same ex-fiance who didn't want the responsiblity in a depressed housing market) as a rental property. So, I'm a stable 40 year old beautiful woman who owns two houses, has car and house debt only, some investments, loves to laugh, loves kids, loves sports, and even enjoys sex on a regular basis (and all the exes say I'm good at it). One of my exes dumped me and spent the next three years with a woman who only wanted sex once a month (see Prozac comment above). He later came back and admitted that breaking up with me was probably a mistake but by that time I had moved on.
If there are any decent guys left out there between 35 and 45, they must be hiding under rocks because they sure aren't beating down my door. I've been doing the online dating thing for 9 months and it's resulted in two dates, that's it. I know online dating only hits a very small portion of available men, but I won't go to bars alone, and am not really into going to church. Besides, everyone who goes to church in my town seems to be in their 70s. All my friends are scattered around the country and don't know any single men anyway, because my friends are all married.
I don't sit home alone, drinking myself into oblivion because I'm single. I stay active, go to the gym, volunteer, go on vacations by myself, etc. My married friends think I'm nuts for going on a cruise by myself but I went for my 40th birthday and had a great time. There was nobody telling me what do do and when to do it. It was fun. Still, I think having a special someone there with me would have been so much better. I miss companionship but refuse to settle.
A lot of my friends have a significant other or are married.
I am single and have been for a while.
I enjoy the single life cause I have all the freedom in the whole to do as I please without anyone thinking of anyone else. I travel a lot, I go to the casino if I want, I can look without worry and have no disagreement with no one. What a life???
However, there are days I sometimes wish I was not single. There are times I go to a party or event and I happen to be the only one who is single or you sitting drinking coffee and you see a couple kissing each other. You wonder if being a couple would be much more fun.
Another thing I noticed is how society views you if you are single. I gotten comments such as "Why don't know have a girlfriend" or "Do you have a wife."
Who honestly enjoys the single life?
Lovin it! Sometimes I feel lonely naturally, but then I think of the jerk I just left and feel so happy to be on my own again and have my space and not be cursed at etc. Gay friends help with this!
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Single and Happy with it!
I'm already committed child free - so that crosses out 80 to 90% of the women in a single stroke.
Furthermore, the older I get, the more I realize I'm happy doing my own thing and not being answerable to anybody. Why any sane person would invite the possibility of bickering and arguing in their own residence is beyond me.
Plus, 50% of marriages end up in divorce. My parents and both grandparents stayed married to the same spouse, and I respect the institution of marriage too much to treat it as a picture-perfect moment. My brother recently got divorced and I saw first hand how it can deeply affect a person (that and having to pay a good sum of money to his ex) - and my brother is not a weak person. The best way to reduce your own odds of divorce is to follow some wise advice I heard as a teen: If you wouldn't marry them, don't date them.
But, for the most part, you can say I'm "married" to my hobbies, my reading, and my free time. Any lonliness I do feel on occassion I can overcome with self-stimulation. I simply see no real need to have a woman closely involved in my life, although I do get along with them reasonably well.
rotfl are you the chubby bald man that meets women at streets corners for what you just described in your post?
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Originally Posted by ChicagoRon
Happy,
Yes I am single and very happy. I enjoy spending my time by myself. To be honest, all I need is someone to "tune me up with hot,rough and steamy sex" and I'm good to go.
I have female friends that I can go out with and that's fine with me. But no girlfriends or wives!
Every guy I fall in love with who dumps me tells me the same thing. I'm great, I'm beautiful, I'm smart, I'm funny, I'm the most normal person they've ever dated, I treat them better than anyone ever has, I'm such a great catch that they're sure some guy will snatch me up before I know what hit me. Yeah, right! At 40, I think there must be some great flaw that none of my ex-boyfriends will admit to me. I've been dumped for a depressed woman on Prozac, a psychotic secretary (at his office), a gold-digging tramp who hates kids (my ex-fiance had two awesome kids and his now-wife doesn't care about them), and dumped for nobody, just so he could escape the fear of commitment .
I don't get it. I'm not controlling, but I'm also not needy. I'm not picking out china patterns after three dates, I don't even call every day (unless it's what he wants), I do nice things for my boyfriends but nothing over the top, I'm buying a house in my a new city, and keeping my current house (dumped on me by the same ex-fiance who didn't want the responsiblity in a depressed housing market) as a rental property. So, I'm a stable 40 year old beautiful woman who owns two houses, has car and house debt only, some investments, loves to laugh, loves kids, loves sports, and even enjoys sex on a regular basis (and all the exes say I'm good at it). One of my exes dumped me and spent the next three years with a woman who only wanted sex once a month (see Prozac comment above). He later came back and admitted that breaking up with me was probably a mistake but by that time I had moved on.
If there are any decent guys left out there between 35 and 45, they must be hiding under rocks because they sure aren't beating down my door. I've been doing the online dating thing for 9 months and it's resulted in two dates, that's it. I know online dating only hits a very small portion of available men, but I won't go to bars alone, and am not really into going to church. Besides, everyone who goes to church in my town seems to be in their 70s. All my friends are scattered around the country and don't know any single men anyway, because my friends are all married.
I don't sit home alone, drinking myself into oblivion because I'm single. I stay active, go to the gym, volunteer, go on vacations by myself, etc. My married friends think I'm nuts for going on a cruise by myself but I went for my 40th birthday and had a great time. There was nobody telling me what do do and when to do it. It was fun. Still, I think having a special someone there with me would have been so much better. I miss companionship but refuse to settle.
you are too good for them.....that is the reason. you dated real losers. no offense.
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Originally Posted by frootloop6
I hate being single!!!
Every guy I fall in love with who dumps me tells me the same thing. I'm great, I'm beautiful, I'm smart, I'm funny, I'm the most normal person they've ever dated, I treat them better than anyone ever has, I'm such a great catch that they're sure some guy will snatch me up before I know what hit me. Yeah, right! At 40, I think there must be some great flaw that none of my ex-boyfriends will admit to me. I've been dumped for a depressed woman on Prozac, a psychotic secretary (at his office), a gold-digging tramp who hates kids (my ex-fiance had two awesome kids and his now-wife doesn't care about them), and dumped for nobody, just so he could escape the fear of commitment .
I don't get it. I'm not controlling, but I'm also not needy. I'm not picking out china patterns after three dates, I don't even call every day (unless it's what he wants), I do nice things for my boyfriends but nothing over the top, I'm buying a house in my a new city, and keeping my current house (dumped on me by the same ex-fiance who didn't want the responsiblity in a depressed housing market) as a rental property. So, I'm a stable 40 year old beautiful woman who owns two houses, has car and house debt only, some investments, loves to laugh, loves kids, loves sports, and even enjoys sex on a regular basis (and all the exes say I'm good at it). One of my exes dumped me and spent the next three years with a woman who only wanted sex once a month (see Prozac comment above). He later came back and admitted that breaking up with me was probably a mistake but by that time I had moved on.
If there are any decent guys left out there between 35 and 45, they must be hiding under rocks because they sure aren't beating down my door. I've been doing the online dating thing for 9 months and it's resulted in two dates, that's it. I know online dating only hits a very small portion of available men, but I won't go to bars alone, and am not really into going to church. Besides, everyone who goes to church in my town seems to be in their 70s. All my friends are scattered around the country and don't know any single men anyway, because my friends are all married.
I don't sit home alone, drinking myself into oblivion because I'm single. I stay active, go to the gym, volunteer, go on vacations by myself, etc. My married friends think I'm nuts for going on a cruise by myself but I went for my 40th birthday and had a great time. There was nobody telling me what do do and when to do it. It was fun. Still, I think having a special someone there with me would have been so much better. I miss companionship but refuse to settle.
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