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Old 05-22-2012, 08:59 AM
 
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I've had numerous people tell me that I don't seem very approachable. My best bud says I look "too masculine" and women are intimidated by me. I've had women tell me that I don't seem too approachable even though I try and smile. I'm not the biggest guy in the world, 5'11, 205 about 9% bodyfat, but not the smallest. My sister says that the veins in my biceps are a big turnoff too?

What can I do to seem more approachable to women? I try and smile, be friendly and wear "softer" color clothes... are women intimidated by decent looking/fit muscular guys?

 
Old 05-22-2012, 09:13 AM
 
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Didn't you get the memo, women only care about personality. Now back in the real world, yes women can be intimated by muscular guys. I would suggest dropping your weight to about 180-190. That will give you more of the lean look. 5-11, 205, 9% suggest that you probably have more of a bodybuilder type body, that will scare women away. You want to have more of the swimmwer, soccer type body.
 
Old 05-22-2012, 09:16 AM
 
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It's ironic that women always think men want them thinner than men actually prefer, and women want more slender men than men imagine.
 
Old 05-22-2012, 09:23 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Personally, it has nothing to do with intimidation. Based on appearance alone, I would be wary of a bodybuilder type only because I would assume that devotion to muscle building would be too high of a priority in his life for me.

I also am not attracted to a man who cares that much about his appearance.

Clean, neat, fit, yes. Obsessed, no.

Not that all muscular men are obsessed, of course.

I would assume men would not want a woman with this mindset either.
 
Old 05-22-2012, 09:24 AM
 
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Are you a bodybuilder?

Bodybuilders intimidate me but I am very slender.
 
Old 05-22-2012, 09:25 AM
 
Location: Infernuan
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Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life View Post
Personally, it has nothing to do with intimidation. Based on appearance alone, I would be wary of a bodybuilder type only because I would assume that devotion to muscle building would be too high of a priority in his life for me.

I also am not attracted to a man who cares that much about his appearance.

Clean, neat, fit, yes. Obsessed, no.

Not that all muscular men are obsessed, of course.

I would assume men would not want a woman with this mindset either.
Agreed. It reeks of narcissism.
 
Old 05-22-2012, 09:27 AM
 
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It's ironic that women always think men want them thinner than men actually prefer, and women want more slender men than men imagine.
The difference is, women seem to take it to the extreme with their idea of thin. Seriously, you have some women who seem to think men want them to be 5'9 110lbs and be a size -2. I'm still trying to figure out where they got that idea.
 
Old 05-22-2012, 09:27 AM
 
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Some are... some are not.

It is that initial image and how some woman may perceive that.

Any gal with an interest in fitness won't have an issue.
 
Old 05-22-2012, 09:32 AM
 
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Personally, it has nothing to do with intimidation. Based on appearance alone, I would be wary of a bodybuilder type only because I would assume that devotion to muscle building would be too high of a priority in his life for me.

I also am not attracted to a man who cares that much about his appearance.

Clean, neat, fit, yes. Obsessed, no.

Not that all muscular men are obsessed, of course.

I would assume men would not want a woman with this mindset either.
Let me ask you this, what would be the definition of obsessed? I can see being turned of by bodybuilder types, but what about the guy or girl who works out 6 times a week to stay in shape, and eats healthy 80-90% of time. It is possible to be in the gym almost everyday, but you are doing it to stay in shape and keep from getting fat, but you aren't trying to build muscle.
 
Old 05-22-2012, 09:42 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Let me ask you this, what would be the definition of obsessed? I can see being turned of by bodybuilder types, but what about the guy or girl who works out 6 times a week to stay in shape, and eats healthy 80-90% of time. It is possible to be in the gym almost everyday, but you are doing it to stay in shape and keep from getting fat, but you aren't trying to build muscle.
My personal version of obsessed would be going to the gym six days a week, knowing exactly what his body fat percentage is, being on a super strict diet, etc. Like other people have said upthread, I like when a guy is more laid back about fitness, not on a specific training regimen. For me, that's lacking in joie de vivre.
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