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I don't understand why below average men think they ate entitled to average women.
Who says they think they're entitled? Men are just trying to get dates, ANY dates, many of them are not too picky as i'm sure you well know. Theyre just 'playing the odds' that the average looking girl will have less suitors than the beautiful girl.
Ugh. That sounds pretty unfortunate. Being, Asian I can sympathize, we're high on the academic and economic scales but in terms of dating value we have a (not unreasonable) reputation for being a bit dorky. Add that to the thick accent, and the stereotype must have literally flung itself into the face of these women. Unlike a thick Italian, Spanish or even Russian accent, a thick Indian or Singaporean or Chinese accent is simply not sexy.
They were probably impressed with his audacity but merely thought he was amusing and/or cute but definitely not attractive. I was pretty privileged to have grown up in a household where we spoke English, and my dad's from the states, so I can cut down on that image.
In any case I can't imagine being happy in a marriage married to someone whom you don't find attractive or interesting, but maybe he found other qualities and there was more to meet the eye.
Haha. RP is the best.
I'm 2nd generation too so the knife cuts a little deeper. A lot of FOBs I know just stick to Asian gals. They're not really even attracted to American women, at least that they let on.
The funny thing about the 2nd part of your post is ... she was kind of the same. She didn't really like him either. And I think that's a lot of the problem. People shoot high in terms of looks and ... um, looks and when they can't get it, feel they settle.
I don't understand why below average men think they ate entitled to average women.
It's part of this entitlement some men have where they can be as repulsive as possible and if they are rejected it's the woman's fault. I saw it often online where guys with nothing to offer went after the cream of the crop with women then when they got rejected blamed the women for not giving them a chance. The amount of below average men I saw online who wanted way above them was far more than the realistic men looking at average looking women. I would see some of the men who contacted me and would get so upset thinking this was the best I could do.
Who says they think they're entitled? Men are just trying to get dates, ANY dates, many of them are not too picky as i'm sure you well know. Theyre just 'playing the odds' that the average looking girl will have less suitors than the beautiful girl.
It's plainly clear on this forum. There are serious entitlement issues from below average men. The only kind of men I have associated with in my life had high standards and their shyte together, so no, I wouldn't know the type. Although that may be foreign to you.
There really are but that attitude is all over the internet. I often talk about the obese man (he must have weighed 400 pounds)on a dating site that said "no fatties". Yes that was his word. First off, most women are not going to be interested in a man that large anyway and second, many would be turned off by how he wrote that.
It's part of this entitlement some men have where they can be as repulsive as possible and if they are rejected it's the woman's fault. I saw it often online where guys with nothing to offer went after the cream of the crop with women then when they got rejected blamed the women for not giving them a chance. The amount of below average men I saw online who wanted way above them was far more than the realistic men looking at average looking women. I would see some of the men who contacted me and would get so upset thinking this was the best I could do.
A good woman will be beautiful on the inside with a warm caring heart. Your exterior looks aren't as important.
We're not saying hotter women dont get approached, we're saying that in relation to the 'hotness' that average chicks get approached more than hot chicks. We're also not saying that every hot chick is just standing there like a wallflower hoping for just ONE guy to say hello. Like i said in an earlier post, these are extremely small samples of the 'bigger picture' but the overall point being that plenty of average to slightly above average chicks get approached a lot because of the idea that they're attainable.
If there was a hypothetical 'sliding scale' and the hotter you are the more approached you get, you would see on this scale, its not a smooth arc to the top...there's a 'spike' in the middle. I know from a personal standpoint, i've been in conversations with many more average/cute chicks than incredible looking chicks and mostly one of the prevailing thoughs was "i have more of a shot".
Men dont like to get shot down and they (falsely) believe that the less attractive a girl is, the better shot that they have....when in reality, its completely random as to which girl will say yes and which one will say no.
I disagree completely. My average friends don't get approached nearly as much as my attractive friends. If my attractive friends reject them, then they'll settle for the 'average' women. They also tend to hit on the average or below average women because they are hoping they'll be happy for any type of attention and maybe they'll get lucky and end up sleeping with them. I have plenty of guy friends that purposely go for average to below average women because they 'put out' faster whereas the better looking women require actual dating.
I don't understand this idea that just because you yourself are unattractive you must be attracted and date other unattractive people. I'm not a good looking guy, but I still don't find unattractive woman appealing. So what? Do I think I'm going to get a nice looking woman to date me? No, I don't think I'll get any woman to date me. Why the hate on guys who like attractive women? If some guy who weighs 400 pounds doesn't find fat women attractive, so what? That's his right. He may never find anyone to date him, he actually might, good for him. Woman are allowed to have standards, but if you're an ugly guy you all of a sudden have to settle for the trolls?
I don't understand this idea that just because you yourself are unattractive you must be attracted and date other unattractive people. I'm not a good looking guy, but I still don't find unattractive woman appealing. So what? Do I think I'm going to get a nice looking woman to date me? No, I don't think I'll get any woman to date me. Why the hate on guys who like attractive women? If some guy who weighs 400 pounds doesn't find fat women attractive, so what? That's his right. He may never find anyone to date him, he actually might, good for him. Woman are allowed to have standards, but if you're an ugly guy you all of a sudden have to settle for the trolls?
You don't have to settle for anything. Just don't be absurd and blame women for your plight. What's at the heart of this thread is some guy thinking that average women should give him the time of day because they're average. That's insane.
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