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I am not saying I cant have them, I am saying I wont have them. Sorry for the confusion.
Have you made your views clear to him?If you have then he may still be fighting with it then he will lean on the no side. Men can straddle the fence and eventually just take the female's decision as his own because he doesn't want to lose her.
I am not saying I cant have them, I am saying I wont have them. Sorry for the confusion.
Oh no, I know what you meant. I combined won't and can't since they basically mean the same thing to me, and that's no kids in the future with her, and that tells me that there is no future with that woman for me.
Have you made your views clear to him?If you have then he may still be fighting with it then he will lean on the no side. Men can straddle the fence and eventually just take the female's decision as his own because he doesn't want to lose her.
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I personally think it depends on the woman that the guy may be with and her age. If she is close to 30, where it gets harder to concieve and she communicates she definitely wants a family, the guy should be totally honest even if he is not sure, that way the ball is in her court of what she wants to do.
Fair enough, you really are quite a catch. I'm not being sarcastic. Childfree women are rare for me to come across in day to day life. I think he may still be wrestling with it. Let him do so because in the end it may seem that he is stringing you along but you are getting what you want anyway. No kids. Everyday he hasn't told you his decision is also another day you did not breed. So who cares?
Fair enough, you really are quite a catch. I'm not being sarcastic. Childfree women are rare for me to come across in day to day life. I think he may still be wrestling with it. Let him do so because in the end it may seem that he is stringing you along but you are getting what you want anyway. No kids. Everyday he hasn't told you his decision is also another day you did not breed. So who cares?
This question really shouldn't be so broad, because many people change their minds. When I was in college there was no doubt in my mind I wanted children, couldn't wait to settle down and have two kids, two sons of course. Got married and all my ex wife and I talked about was having children, as soon as we made enough money. Well the money came, but for some reason the kids didn't and I realized that as I got older kids were not for me, and I was past 30 when I came to this realization. Now many people go through their adult life determined to never get married or have kids, and focus on their career, then in their 40's deceide they want to have a family. So just like with any other decision, this one doesn't have to be set in tone. Depending on the circumstances in a person's life, what they want could change.
You can think he should know, but if he doesn't know, he doesn't know.
Even if he feels you are right that he should know... he still doesn't know.
What's the point of arguing that? Even if you win the argument...... he still doesn't know.
You can't force him to know.
Which puts you in a bad situation, because you DO know. This is one of those no win situations.... you do have a right to know, and he has a right not to know.
You just have decide what to do because he might change his mind in the future.
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