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Old 03-26-2013, 12:11 PM
 
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Have you made your views clear to him?If you have then he may still be fighting with it then he will lean on the no side. Men can straddle the fence and eventually just take the female's decision as his own because he doesn't want to lose her.
Agree but this could also cause resentment or cheating in the future especially if he wanted kids and chose not to because "his girlfriend doesn't".
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Old 03-26-2013, 12:25 PM
 
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Men never want children, they just accept to have them to keep women. At most, they want someone who resembles them and who bears their surname. But that's it.
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Old 03-26-2013, 12:26 PM
 
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Men never want children, they just accept to have them to keep women. At most, they want someone who resembles them and who bears their surname. But that's it.
Interesting, so by your logic he doesn't really want children so I have nothing to worry about?
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Old 03-26-2013, 12:26 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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Men never want children, they just accept to have them to keep women. At most, they want someone who resembles them and who bears their surname. But that's it.
Entirely not true.

I know lots of guys that want kids.
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Old 03-26-2013, 12:28 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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At the end of the day, you can only control your own life.


You can say he should know, or he should break up..... but you have no control over those things. Period.
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Old 03-26-2013, 12:28 PM
 
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Interesting, so by your logic he doesn't really want children so I have nothing to worry about?
In the long run he knows he doesn't. It doesn't mean he can't have doubts.
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Old 03-26-2013, 12:31 PM
 
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Entirely not true.

I know lots of guys that want kids.
If they already have kids, you can't really expect them to say openly that they never wanted children. It's not socially acceptable.

If you they don't have kids, their partners surely do and they have to agree with them on this to keep them.
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Old 03-26-2013, 12:36 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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If they already have kids, you can't really expect them to say openly that they never wanted children. It's not socially acceptable.

If you they don't have kids, their partners surely do and they have to agree with them on this to keep them.
You do understand the OP is a girl, and is adamant about not wanting children?

It's the guy that can't promise he never wants kids.

Sometimes too many knee jerk reactions cause head trauma.
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Old 03-26-2013, 12:36 PM
 
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If they already have kids, you can't really expect them to say openly that they never wanted children. It's not socially acceptable.

If you they don't have kids, their partners surely do and they have to agree with them on this to keep them.


And the single guys?

And the guy in the OP? What's his excuse for waffling?
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Old 03-26-2013, 12:37 PM
 
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And the single guys?
The single guys don't want kids because they don't. Full stop.
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