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It is not fair but life is not fair. Basically some guys are bitter and angry that women don't respond positively to them. They have to understand that they don't have any control over the women's response, the only thing a person can control is himself (or herself). Focus on building a rich life and doing self-improvement, have fun without depending on another person, and in time I believe almost everyone will find someone who is right for them. Do therapy, find new hobbies, do whatever it takes.
I do know this... if I detected a hint of anger at women, that will send me running quicker than almost anything. I spent my childhood being raised by an angry, bitter stepfather, and believe me its still giving me problems. I refuse to give a person like that one more second of my life. And yes that is why I am not married to one of the many guys I dated... I tended to choose those that were not emotionally available, because that is what I was unconciously comfortable with.
I agree with what you say.
However, I took that marriage road thinking there wasn't that anger & bitterness I so experienced while young like yourself.
How I long for the day when peace will then return to me. Much like that window I had from parents... To apartment .... To marriage.
I have no dating life at all. I literally have never had a girlfriend ever. Had horrible social anxiety for most of my life, so I rarely talked to anybody in school. No girls ever hit on me and they still don't. After so many years of trying and failing, I kind of lost the drive to want to date. I still do wonder what it would be like to have a girlfriend, to have someone who really likes me.
I wonder how different my life would be if i took a chance in high school and asked out girls left and right. I'd probably be a successful businessman, maybe a professtional lingerie photographer who works in Hawaii. But no, I'm a depressed 31 year old guy with a failing small business and still living at home because of no money. I'm just kidding about the depressed part, I stay pretty happy most of the time, just seems like something is missing. Oh yeah, A Girl. My plan is to wait till i have my life together to start asking out women again, probably take about five years. I do wish I could get some kind of experience with women, but patience is the key here, and I have alot of patience. But I'm starting to not care as I get older, that can't be good, right. I don't think is good at all, you're supposed to care if women don't like you, well I do but not as much as I used to. Oh well, I'll eventually not be so scared to talk to attractive women, then I can try to ask them out. Until then it's Hann Solo all the way.
I have no dating life at all. I literally have never had a girlfriend ever. Had horrible social anxiety for most of my life, so I rarely talked to anybody in school. No girls ever hit on me and they still don't. After so many years of trying and failing, I kind of lost the drive to want to date. I still do wonder what it would be like to have a girlfriend, to have someone who really likes me.
I wonder how different my life would be if i took a chance in high school and asked out girls left and right. I'd probably be a successful businessman, maybe a professtional lingerie photographer who works in Hawaii. But no, I'm a depressed 31 year old guy with a failing small business and still living at home because of no money. I'm just kidding about the depressed part, I stay pretty happy most of the time, just seems like something is missing. Oh yeah, A Girl. My plan is to wait till i have my life together to start asking out women again, probably take about five years. I do wish I could get some kind of experience with women, but patience is the key here, and I have alot of patience. But I'm starting to not care as I get older, that can't be good, right. I don't think is good at all, you're supposed to care if women don't like you, well I do but not as much as I used to. Oh well, I'll eventually not be so scared to talk to attractive women, then I can try to ask them out. Until then it's Hann Solo all the way.
well do not fell to bad i am 30 and never had areal GF but dated a lot and had a FB with a girl but that is it. I work a dead end job that I hate.
It makes it hard to date when you got no money and your job going no where . I do not do anything fun seeing that i do not have money to do so. I have no real friends they became a cancer so moved on from them. I have my own place and a car it made in 2006 so it no POS.
Woman that I talked to some times do not believe me when I say i do not have a GF. Then they tell me if i wanted a GF all i have to do is ask.
Good news is i have been going back to college and going to be volunteering at a hospital soon. I want to volunteering at the children's hospital but it hard to become a volunteer.
I feel the most up beat when I working towards a goal . Also my confidence goes up ten fold and i am unstoppable for the most part.
When i am confident woman smile at me approach me and flock to me (ok not really ) .
I wish i could be happy more then I am sad i hate feeling like time running out for me to find love. I just do not think a girl will understand my lack of dating and all that .
I did not date at all during my teens and early 20s. I in my 30s and not dated any woman in years. It is depressing when I think about it. Yet I try not to dwell too much on it.
well do not fell to bad i am 30 and never had areal GF but dated a lot and had a FB with a girl but that is it. I work a dead end job that I hate.
It makes it hard to date when you got no money and your job going no where . I do not do anything fun seeing that i do not have money to do so. I have no real friends they became a cancer so moved on from them. I have my own place and a car it made in 2006 so it no POS.
Woman that I talked to some times do not believe me when I say i do not have a GF. Then they tell me if i wanted a GF all i have to do is ask.
Good news is i have been going back to college and going to be volunteering at a hospital soon. I want to volunteering at the children's hospital but it hard to become a volunteer.
I feel the most up beat when I working towards a goal . Also my confidence goes up ten fold and i am unstoppable for the most part.
When i am confident woman smile at me approach me and flock to me (ok not really ) .
I wish i could be happy more then I am sad i hate feeling like time running out for me to find love. I just do not think a girl will understand my lack of dating and all that .
Well damn. Can't get any more obvious than that. Get off your behind, stop feeling sorry for yourself and ask!
I had one date in my teens, and very few in my early 20's. Once I got a little experience, my dating life took off into my early 30's, when I met my now ex-wife. I think I would still do well if I were in a different city. I'm much more confident and have a good career (finally).
I had a few dates in high school, but nothing very serious and no sex.
When I started college I decided to take some risks, make new friends and generally turn over a new leaf. I started playing sports, which I found to be daunting in my late teens. I compensated by my lack of sporting experience by doing sports that were a bit unusual, competitive swimming, fencing and karate. This way I could be a novice along with just about everybody else and not be intimidated.
The new environment of college and physical confidence that came with sporting activities gave me the boost I needed. It didn't take me long before I went on a number of casual and then intimate dates.
I also started bulking up in college and was in great shape, but I still thought of myself as that nerdy high school kid who was picked on and missed out on countless opportunities.
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