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Old 10-09-2013, 10:33 PM
 
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It depends. If you're strictly talking about dating and no further -- which basically means "having sex" -- then, sure. But often women who are single mothers are looking for someone to marry, not just "date." So most guys approach the situation thinking "do I want to marry her?"
I am single now (divorced) and I have no intentions of marrying again... a least, it's not on my radar. But I suppose other women might want to marry again. But a man should know he isn't obligated to marry a woman just because he's dating her. I wouldn't want to be obligated to marry every man I met ./

I would say dating is more than just sex. The guy I am dating now, we do all sorts of stuff together, scuba dive, go to the movies, eat out, and we are planning a trip together. He's a companion, not just a sex toy.
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Old 10-09-2013, 10:38 PM
 
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I am single now (divorced) and I have no intentions of marrying again... a least, it's not on my radar. But I suppose other women might want to marry again. But a man should know he isn't obligated to marry a woman just because he's dating her. I wouldn't want to be obligated to marry every man I met ./

I would say dating is more than just sex. The guy I am dating now, we do all sorts of stuff together, scuba dive, go to the movies, eat out, and we are planning a trip together. He's a companion, not just a sex toy.
I just hope when i find a great girl she want to become best friends if we get married and do every thing together well not every thing but close. I never really had a best friend b4 since he died in high school.
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Old 10-09-2013, 10:52 PM
 
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I just hope when i find a great girl she want to become best friends if we get married and do every thing together well not every thing but close. I never really had a best friend b4 since he died in high school.
Well, the man I am dating now started out as a friend. I think friends make the best lovers. I am sure you will find someone. It sometimes takes a while and life doesn't work out the way we think it should, but don't lose hope and keep your chin up (if you give in to sadness and hopelessness, it can spiral into an abyss). When I feel things are slipping for me, I help others--I kid you know it really makes a person feel good.
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Old 10-09-2013, 11:42 PM
 
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I just hope when i find a great girl she want to become best friends if we get married and do every thing together well not every thing but close. I never really had a best friend b4 since he died in high school.
Awww that's sweet.
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Old 10-09-2013, 11:59 PM
 
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I'm the same age as the OP and I figure if I were to be on the market, most likely I'd date women that had kids, the only thing I would hope is that they would be older and a more on their "own" as in late teens and or 20's...... I think at age they are a bit more independent and mom would have a little more time of her own.

I've lived the childfree/childless, which ever term is the least offensive, life for a long time, and it would be hard for me to change it up at this point, as in I don't think I'd want to deal with a woman that had say an 8 yr old or something like that......

Not sure if that thinking is accurate, but it's how I'd imagine it to be....
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Old 10-10-2013, 12:11 AM
 
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Awww that's sweet.
Thanks
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Old 10-10-2013, 12:12 AM
 
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If a girl was married it a lot different then just a BF/GF thing . When people say single mom I think of a girl that has never been married.
Why exactly does it make a difference?
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Old 10-10-2013, 12:14 AM
 
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Why exactly does it make a difference?
different levels of commitment I'd imagine.
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Old 10-10-2013, 12:19 AM
 
Location: ATL with a side of Chicago
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Well, the man I am dating now started out as a friend. I think friends make the best lovers. I am sure you will find someone. It sometimes takes a while and life doesn't work out the way we think it should, but don't lose hope and keep your chin up (if you give in to sadness and hopelessness, it can spiral into an abyss). When I feel things are slipping for me, I help others--I kid you know it really makes a person feel good.
Very true. My boyfriend was my best friend since we were in elementary school. It took us that long and several failed relationships (and a divorce for me) to find out that we were a perfect fit. Why? Maybe because pride is out of the equation. Hard to get too high on yourself when he pantsed you in the 5th grade.

We were talking about this just the other day. A strong friendship makes things so much better.
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Old 10-10-2013, 12:36 AM
 
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Why exactly does it make a difference?

well if a girl had a kid from a long term relationship that was going to lead towards marriage but did not work out . I can understand it a lot more. It like the kids was planned for but the relationship went south.

vs having a kid just to have one or some loser get her pregnant. She had a kid from a one night stand or FB kind of thing. Or what ever reason she now has a kid.

I am not hating on anyone all i am saying is if a girl was going to get married to a guy and was having his kid but he walk out on her I could understand a lot more then if a girl told me well i never loved the kids dad it just happened.Well i do not really know how the dad was or is.

It not the fact that she has a kid it is the circumstance that matters to me.

I might be the only one that feel this way .
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