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I think I am approaching that conclusion. Getting tired of pleasant online chat then meeting up and feeling disappointed that I dont meet her stringent criteria/expectations.
I know I sound a little negative. I just see woman and men getting emotionally hurt all the time on these sites. Very successful and loving people get rejected all the time. Allot of it is based on lookism IMO.
You're right, and I'm sorry to be flippant. But I don't find dating sites to any different than life.
Hope you find Ms. Right.
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Huh, I guess I don't know what it is. I turn my profile on (when I feel like dating again), get some messages, send some messages, make a few meetings and if something comes out of one of them then great. Simple. I kept my OKC profile up two weeks about a month ago, did four dates, and one has promise. We're going to dinner Friday (fourth meeting). Is that not a true date? I don't know if it will go anywhere, but she's cool.
Sure it does, or it does for the guys I know. But if you're profile isn't working, improve it.
Though, from the messages I see that my female friends get, it seems the real problem for tons of guys is that they seem completely unable to carry on any real conversation via the written word.
x2 I agree. It's also an obstacle because you can't hear the person's tone of voice, sarcasm, ect.
I'm going to give up online dating, I'm sick of it. Meeting someone for the first time on that site feels your giving someone a structured interview. It's so uncomfortable.
I'm just going to start casually talking to women at my gym, ski resort, or the cute girl that works in the pro shop. I usually get a lot of responses and messages from OLD but 7/8 of them are flakes. I'm over it.
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I know I sound a little negative. I just see woman and men getting emotionally hurt all the time on these sites. Very successful and loving people get rejected all the time. Allot of it is based on lookism IMO.
That is odd since you know what they look like before you meet them. Sometimes people are a bit heavier than I thought they'd be or whatever, but hey, that's life.
That is odd since you know what they look like before you meet them. Sometimes people are a bit heavier than I thought they'd be or whatever, but hey, that's life.
Oh I wasn't talking about the physical. I'm speaking of men and woman who get ignored constantly or who haven't found a good date from online dating. They think that their is something wrong with them when in reality, its just a hotornot type scenario.
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Oh I wasn't talking about the physical. I'm speaking of men and woman who get ignored constantly or who haven't found a good date from online dating. They think that their is something wrong with them when in reality, its just a hotornot type scenario.
I think you really have to be very below average, or really obese, to have trouble getting dates from OLD if you do everything else right and you're realistic about expectations. I know many guys that are very average (including myself) and/or short (say 5'5") and have success.
I think you really have to be very below average, or really obese, to have trouble getting dates from OLD if you do everything else right and you're realistic about expectations. I know many guys that are very average (including myself) and/or short (say 5'5") and have success.
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Yeah. Location of course matters too. Rural areas are a wasteland.
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