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People may not care but I'm sure potential dates do. Although the majority of women in my thread a while back said they would date virgins a significant number said they wouldn't. So it is something to worry about.
Listen to how defeatist you sound. A majority of women will say they would date a guy with brown hair, but a significant number will say they wouldn't (prefer black, blonde, or red). You gonna worry about that, too?
You're just picking and choosing what to have anxiety about. As you were proved, plenty of women wouldn't care and you can find one who doesn't. What is your logic in finding "something to worry about" in that other minority percentage that would pass up on taking your virginity when you could be focusing on finding one who doesn't give a hoot?
There's a guy who replied in one of the many virginity posts who just lost his virginity last week, and I saw him say that the absolute wrong way to view losing your virginity is as some sort of goal, milestone, or concern. I believe he recommended to just let it happen when it does.
Why post on here looking for advice when you're only going to consider the feedback that works against you?
Listen to how defeatist you sound. A majority of women will say they would date a guy with brown hair, but a significant number will say they wouldn't (prefer black, blonde, or red). You gonna worry about that, too?
You're just picking and choosing what to have anxiety about. As you were proved, plenty of women wouldn't care and you can find one who doesn't. What is your logic in finding "something to worry about" in that other minority percentage that would pass up on taking your virginity when you could be focusing on finding one who doesn't give a hoot?
There's a guy who replied in one of the many virginity posts who just lost his virginity last week, and I saw him say that the absolute wrong way to view losing your virginity is as some sort of goal, milestone, or concern. I believe he recommended to just let it happen when it does.
Why post on here looking for advice when you're only going to consider the feedback that works against you?
I'm not really sure how to explain it to you. Yes I understand what you're saying conceptually and I do try to behave confident in public but in the back of my mind it does bother me. If you read the responses in the thread many women did say that they would assume something was wrong with an older virgin. Those who didn't were usually virgins themselves.
In all seriousness though, if I do ever end up having sex I've decided I won't tell her I'm a virgin. I'll just do it and wish for the best.
I'm not really sure how to explain it to you. Yes I understand what you're saying conceptually and I do try to behave confident in public but in the back of my mind it does bother me. If you read the responses in the thread many women did say that they would assume something was wrong with an older virgin. Those who didn't were usually virgins themselves.
In all seriousness though, if I do ever end up having sex I've decided I won't tell her I'm a virgin. I'll just do it and wish for the best.
I just don't get why you choose obsess/let it bother you instead of just letting live and let live.
You're just making yourself feel bad. I was in your position a long time ago...when I was a teenager. I fear there is no one out there for me or anyone who really understand me as a person, but I choose not to think about it.
Worrying does nothing, but make things worse, and can be a self fulfilling prophecy.
I fear there is no one out there for me or anyone who really understand me as a person, but I choose not to think about it.
But this doesn't bother you? I mean not having sex and being alone forever? If everyone is doing and we can't doesn't that mean something is wrong with us especially since both of us want to?
I understand not letting it get to you but honestly what keeps me hopeful is that one day I will have sex. But telling myself that it may never happen and to just be comfortable with that fact, I'm not sure I can do that.
But this doesn't bother you? I mean not having sex and being alone forever? If everyone is doing and we can't doesn't that mean something is wrong with us especially since both of us want to?
I understand not letting it get to you but honestly what keeps me hopeful is that one day I will have sex. But telling myself that it may never happen and to just be comfortable with that fact, I'm not sure I can do that.
It is what it is.
It used to bug me.... it still does sometimes because I have my points where I get lonely. But I mean I think...what can you do about it? Cry? Throw a tantrum? Smash a car?
What would that do?
Being like everyone else doesn't mean you are normal or something isn't wrong with you...there are numerous people out there you think are "normal" but could have any and everything wrong with them. You gotta stop trying to compare yourself to others. It doesn't do anyone any good.
Thanks for flagging my comments up. Really as a guy who let's face lost it at 26 , technically I was 25 you are looking into this all way too much. Please from a guy who worried over this stuff for awhile get over yourself , its not a big deal and you are not a freak as long as you can allow yourself not to be one by going down the path of thought you are currently on. I recently lost it and I consider myself to be very normal, we all have our own time and worry doesn't help, try spend more time on improving yourself and having fun. My few pounds from a recent virgin.
Thanks for flagging my comments up. Really as a guy who let's face lost it at 26 , technically I was 25 you are looking into this all way too much. Please from a guy who worried over this stuff for awhile get over yourself , its not a big deal and you are not a freak as long as you can allow yourself not to be one by going down the path of thought you are currently on. I recently lost it and I consider myself to be very normal, we all have our own time and worry doesn't help, try spend more time on improving yourself and having fun. My few pounds from a recent virgin.
This comment needs its own sticky at the top of the Relationship board.
People may not care but I'm sure potential dates do. Although the majority of women in my thread a while back said they would date virgins a significant number said they wouldn't. So it is something to worry about.
"worry" is a waste of time and energy.
Put your energy into actually living your life and being the best you that you can be, then the sex part will take care of itself.
Why would you tell anyone? Let things progress naturally. It's really not a big deal, it just is in your mind.
If they honestly like you as a human being they'll try their best to make it work. If they don't it may be best to move on anyway. Don't get to attached and just try to have fun everyday.
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