I'm a 30 year old virgin.....HELP!!!!! (girlfriend, long distance, girls, attracted)
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Do you think those things are 100% effective? I think not. Hey, if you think the risk is worth it, be promiscuous. I'm saying promiscuity and especially seeing sex workers is not what I'd advise.
For some reason they have been convinced this is a flaw and there is something wrong with them.
The same people that have convinced virgins they are flawed are the same ones who refer to women
who have had a few sexual partners as used, easy, damaged, tramps, etc.
They are also the same people that refer to men who have had more than a few sexual partners as studs.
I honestly don't think there is a way to make them realize they are not flawed or fix the double standard.
Well i think it's the fact since we were 13 years old people have been making out with girls and since Junior/Senior year of high school people have been having sex. I mean obviously if you haven't done it since then you do start to feel behind. I mean I understand your idea of turning off the neon light that says "I'm a virgin", but i mean a certain amount of anxiety is natural. I can't speak for anyone else but I myself have had instances in my youth where I've been excluded or teased by girls and it makes me fear whether or not adult women would behave the same way. For ex. when I was in high school I remember some of my friends convinced a group of girls to play strip poker with them. They agreed only if I wouldn't participate. Naturally I was left out and my friends told me stories about how awesome it was. Not to mention the college parties where girls basically ignored me.
Of course you cannot let such fears paralyze you. I mean at this point it's water under the bridge. In public I try to act as confident as I can but I'd be lying if I told you that when the time comes to kiss or have sex with a woman that i wouldn't be nervous or partially fear that I'll mocked the way I was when i was younger.
Sorry if this creeps anyone out. I would never admit this to anybody in real life but its anonymous forum so it's a place where I can be open.
. For ex. when I was in high school I remember some of my friends convinced a group of girls to play strip poker with them. They agreed only if I wouldn't participate. Naturally I was left out and my friends told me stories about how awesome it was..
Although I am married now, I was a virgin at 30 too. I also felt it was a huge deal which was my biggest hindrance to developing a meaningful relationship at that point.
My advice would be to stop worrying about your relationship status, virginity status, and level of experience. I is whatever it is and is not going to be re written. Instead, know yourself and have confidence in yourself and what you have to offer. The right woman for you is going to be interested in and evaluating who you are now and not who you where or the path you took to get there.
I am always thankful my wife did not pass judgment on what I perceived my past to be and instead was interested in seeing me for who I really was.
Don't let your past define your whole future. Take charge, know yourself, be confident, and be yourself!
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