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I don't want to make the OP feel bad, but yeah... it's a little weird to be 24 or older and have never had sex... unless of course you're saving yourself for marriage....
You do realize that you made the OP feel bad, not sure if it was intentional or inadvertent, but there is absolutely nothing wrong whatsoever with desiring to wait for the right person and actually being able to do this. Those of us who want to wait should not be made by others to feel ashamed or bad because we actually value relationships, commitment, and sex differently than you do.
Last edited by JobZombie; 02-08-2015 at 09:43 AM..
You do realize that you made the OP feel bad, not sure if it was intentional or inadvertent, but there is absolutely nothing wrong whatsoever with desiring to wait for the right person and actually being able to do this. Those of us who want to wait should not be made by others to feel ashamed or bad because we actually value relationships, commitment, and sex differently than you do.
I guess you didn't read my entire post, I did give proper respect to those that wait. In this day and age of pretty much hedonism and the anything goes attitude we seem to have in this society for me to say that it's a "little weird" shouldn't cause the OP to break down and feel too badly, if he's got enough stones to go against the grain and do it his way one guy on the Internet saying that it's a little weird, in a gentle and not overly mean fashion he should be able to pull through and not start crying in his cheerios....
I most certainly didn't say it was wrong, as he asked for weird and wrong.... nothing wrong if it suits the person.... all things legal of course.
Things are only important if you think they are important. I'm a virgin at 34...this would probably be a tragedy to most people but it's not to me because I don't give it any relevance.
Just live your life and ignore age-related milestones.
I don't get why guys are so obsessed with virginity.
No it's not a problem...quit worrying about it. Go out and live your life the way you want to and forget everyone else and what they're doing.
It's very simple.
For me, it's not as simple as it sounds. It's a little bit difficult when everybody else around says that you are the oddball for it or aren't a "real man" because you've never had sex. It's like losing your virginity is some mark of adulthood, and because I have one it's like you're a little boy. Virginity is misunderstood to be a sign of ugliness or a loser (at least for men). Nobody seems to really think about it other than to make fun of it from what I've seen. With all the stereotypes about virgins, I find it hard to find who understands me and my reasons for being a virgin. They just want to say you're weird. People have called me every mean adjective in the book, from nuts to prudish. So it hasn't been easy there. Virginity's a lonely boat. The majority doesn't want to understand it or my reasons why I'm maintaining it, at least in my experience.
It's also hard to find anybody who understands celibacy either. It's almost like people just find it unfathomable that there are people not looking to have sex and/or remaining a virgin in life in my case. Well, remaining a virgin in life with ability to change for a girl who I'll marry in my case. It's such a foreign deal for so many to think of remaining a virgin. People just think that something is wrong with you like I said in the article, i.e. hangups or religious weirdo. Or that you can't get anybody. Those are the things I have caught honestly. So, it's simply hasn't been easy for me at least, and downplaying peoples pressure isn't helping either. I'd like to move on, but everyone's pejorative opinions keep drawing me back and make me wonder if I am a weirdo like they say.
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